My husband and I have been married for 15 years and together for 18.  He has a 21 year old from a previous marriage and has only seen her twice since she as 2.  The BM is crazy and tried to cause too many legal issues, so it was better for him to just stay away from her.  In November, my SD21 was locked out of her mom and SD house.  She called my husbands mother, with whom she has had a relationship since she was around 13 or 14.   My husbands mom tired to hide this fact, but they live in a really small town.