So there's SD8 and SD4 I think I'm doing that right (step daughter and the age?) anyway I guess my issue is that I FEEL like even after having them with us over a year now ... they do things intentionally to be ill towards me for no specific reason. Their dad can't see it and makes me feel like a horrible person for even saying how I feel. Am I wrong ? Somebody please just be straight with me. Are kids at these ages aware of what they are doing or is he right and I'm just a complete trash parent ?!