I would like thoughts &/or advise from other grandparents who are raising their step-grandchildren on disengagement. My husband and 8 have raised my step granddaughter, who is now 17, since she was 5 years old. She was removed (along with her infant brother) by Child Protective Services,  from her mother and placed in permanent custody, with us. My scenario is much like others I have read from Step Mom’s who have found themselves needing to disengage in order to protect their own emotional well being. I had a good relationship with my SG until around the age of 12.