I've been reading so many of the different blogs and forum posts on here, and some of you amaze me (in a good way). The idea of "don't do anything for the skids" sounds great but so unrealistic for me.

My H and I have been going at this as "a team" for over 6 years now. SKids' BM is not around at all, and my BD13's dad wasn't around much until this last year as he lived in a different state. I've been mom to everyone, met with nothing but resistance from skids, but that's just their nature, they don't treat their father much better.