My situation is different from most. My husband is disabled and cannot drive (legally blind). BM helps out and drives him places he needs to go whenever I have to work. Sunday they went to church (I didn’t go because I was sick) and later ate lunch at a place the kids wanted to eat (my stepkids). BM's husband knew about it and was fine with it. She texts him random things about the kids which I guess is reasonable because it’s his kids. She texted him saying she brought SD9 to the nail salon to have her nails taken off (acrylics). I mean he has every right to know about his kids, I know.