Hi everyone, 

I am new to this blog and I came across it today when I googled "I can't stand my stepchildren anymore".

Well... let's start from the fact that I am not yet married to my partner... he still has to get his divorce (after only 3 years!!!!) and I am constantly reminded of the fact that I am not yet a stepmum and that I don't carry the same surname. He has 3 little girls and they are lovely children (most of the time), but they are seriously traumatised but their parents' divorce, they are spoiled and have a constant need for attention. 

I have a SD 7 and a bio daughter 8, they have a love/hate relationship. My partners ex is a piece of work and she manipulates, lies, and and calls the cops/children's aid for no reason other than maybe she's bored?

SD is learning these things from her mom who also bribes her with toys and adventures to come home early and prefer her house over ours. As a result my partner feels that the only way to keep her from having a tantrum or to win her favour he needs to give in. 

I was just 19 when I married my husband and we are approaching our one year anniversary and I am not where I want to be. My husband is a package deal. His daughter was 3 when I met her and she is almost 5. When I first met her, we instantly clicked. She would call me her sister but my husband quickly nipped it in the bud, because he wanted her to see me as her mom and not a friend or a sister. I understood his point and decided that I create motherly boundaries. My husband would tell me that he regretted having a child at only 19 and that he didn't like the woman he had her with.