HELP
Well I can't say for sure BM has a mental illness but I think so I used to work at a Mental Health Clinic and I would say she is crazy. She has moved her home 6 times in 1 year and has moved his daycare 9 times in 2 years. My husband is going to court for full custody and I hope he wins. BM has been arrested for threatening to kill me (sm) and then breaking the order of protection. She hates me for no reason she just is mad that I married the man she wanted to marry the man she had a kid with and she wanted to build a house together. I can't take her anymore it has been 3 years and she is starting to make me crazy, I can't believe she could ever raise a kid on her own. She gets 600 a month and he goes back and forth every 3 days they have split custody and split placement for now, she won't call our new house because it is long distance eventhough she get 600 a month for cs. she has sent him home in no underwear because he had an accident and she ran out. he has slept in her bed for 3 years and not in his own bed he has no tv or curtains in his room, and she is worried about me being around him. he comes to our house and he tells me mommy hates you and she wants to marry daddy and live here and he is only 4years old. he cries wondering if he should love me. What is her problem? and how do I calm down before I ruin my marriage to an amazing man.
HELP
Well..........
That is the exact reason she hates you, it isn't for no reason, it is because you are with her ex. Why is she getting child support if it is 50/50 custody? I would suggest that your BF has her and/or his child evaluated by the court for mental issues. You calm down by ignoring it. She thrives off of making you mad. It is all hard to understand, and essentially a game. Just don't play it, she can't fight with herself.......don't engage.
Good luck.........sorry to sound so blunt.
You have to completely
You have to completely ignore her & not make her an important part of your life. Her goal is to ruin your marriage & make you unhappy, so don't let her to do it. Go through the courts to try to do whats best for the kid. Tell the kid that his mommy is upset & sayuing mean things but that doesn't mean thats how he has to feel. Show him all the love you can. He's only 4 so you're lucky he's young. I would definitely have your husband bring that up in the custody case...that she puts the kid in the middle & says demeaning things. Even if he doesn't get custody he can get an order stating she is not allowed to say derogatory things to the child about you guys.
Just because you CAN give birth, doesn't mean you SHOULD
Thank you sooo much I feel
Thank you sooo much I feel better. The reason she get cs and it is 50-50 is because he makes so much more than her. The courts take in to account the parents income the child would have if they were together and then give the child 17% of that and since he makes 60,000 and she makes 20,0000 he should pay 205 a week but the courts were kind and set cs at 150 a week because it is 50-50. We go to court in Dec. and I pray to win. She told my husband the other day that she could get insurance on the kid but it would cost her 200 a month for family and she pays 60 a month for her so their son is on child health plus and he is going to be on my insurance soon we just got married. I can't believe she would not pay the extra when the court paper state when it is affordable one of them should have coverage I would say 200 is affordable because she gets 600 in cs I am going to be paying 400 a month for family but I love my family. She doesn't know she makes me crazy, she actually thinks I am calm but I am a good actress I vent on my husband, but no more now that I have you guys my relationship will get much better because I can vent here and be done. I think he is sick of feeling in the middle it is just I don't like her, she has called my work 3 times and wrote a letter trying to get me fired and called DSS on me 3 times trying to get my foster daughter taken away. Can you blame me for not wanting to be her friend. Thanks again I look forward to many vent sessions this site is great!!!
Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't
Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe he has to pay cs!!!!! they have joint custody and joint placement he should NOT be paying cs. That's BS. Go back to court get that taken care of. Since she does not have primary placement and they have joint custody you guys have a great chance of getting primary placement and custody. You will half to provr her unfit which does not sound like it will be a prob.