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Beautiful Dreamer's picture

Submitted by Beautiful Dreamer on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 1:49pm

According to mil SS deserves every penny of cs that DH pays because he is the oldest and that if DH filed for a modification that would not be fair but its not fair to my 3 kids that their dads check is always gone. But everything has worked out since DH got a reduction in cs. BM and MIL will be thoroughly pissed off.

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stormabruin's picture

Submitted by stormabruin on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 1:59pm

MIL doesn't even need to know about it. It doesn't affect her. I wouldn't even discuss it with her.

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Submitted by msg1986 on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 2:08pm

if she asks because bm talks to her just shrug your shoulders and stick to "everything is great/I dunno." and change subject. my fmil tried to butt in too and also spoke about things with bm but that ended quick once fdh and I started using this technique.

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Submitted by msg1986 on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 2:05pm

I'm with stormabruin, save yourself the headache and don't even discuss anything with mil, none of her business. If she asks how things are with bm or anything regarding bm simply respond w/ a quick "fine." and change the subject. she'll get the hint it's none of her business.

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 2:45pm

My DH doesn't speak to his mother either. Guess why? Because she's up BMs ass 24/7 and refuses to accept that WE are a married couple. Suits me just fine, I couldn't be fake and be nice to that old hag anyway.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 2:14pm

Does BM have a job? I understand the purpose of CS but it's appalling to see, hear and read about the ever-increasing number of people who use it as their sole income. If BM wants SS to have more, she should get a job to start paying for her portion of his costs. She can apply to work at Walgreens, McDonalds, etc. The pay might not be the best but she'd be making more money than she is now and she'd be doing it honorably.

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Submitted by LONGTIME SM on Sat, 12/08/2012 - 1:18pm

I so agree. I had to tell my middle aged stepdaughter this very same thing. She wanted what she felt was her right to have a say in how my children were raised. She was claiming her right because she and her brother were blood. Gag. Hope she went back and told both her brother and her BM my reply.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Fri, 12/07/2012 - 5:15pm

I must be the minority, but in my house, CS falls under the category of finances, and our finances are private, discussed only among the adults of the house. Your MIL shouldn't know anything about it, and I'm appalled that BM isn't too ashamed to bring it up, considering her contribution of ZERO.