I freaking hate dealing with SD(7) in the mornings!!!!!
Every freaking morning is a fight to get this kid to do the most simplest task. And by simple I mean just putting her stinking shoes on.
This morning I had enough of it. Everything was fine until I asked her to put her hoodie on. Then here we go with the complaining. I wish I was a boy. I wish I never existed to which I have to ask her multiple times to put her coat on. (She doesn't like her hoodie so she does this every morning.) So now everybody is waiting on her just like we are every morning while she whines and complains. Now it's time to take her cough syrup. I don't want to. It tastes gross. I told her that I didn't buy grape this time and bought fruit punch instead because she doesn't like grape. Her reply, I like grape now. BS!!! If I had bought grape she'd whine and complain about it. Now it's time to get into the car. I asked the kids to follow SD out into the garage and asked that SD get in first because she sits in the middle. Did she do it? Nope she walked around the garage with her little brother following her and then proceeded to come into the house to tell on him. I asked her if he was preventing her from getting into the car to which she replied with no.
So now we're in the car headed to school and SD and SS(5) are arguing and fighting in the back seat. I asked them to stop. Then SD starts whining about how she didn't get her jacket on right, it's not zipped up, and she's being choked. I finally had enough at this point and told her that I was tiered of the complaining and whining every morning. (The minute you ask her to do something she doesn't want to do it becomes a fight of having to ask her multiple times.) I told her that I'm tiered and I don't want to go to work but do you hear me complaining about it? True to SD's form she starts her BS. This is how the convo went.
SD: Yes, you do complain all of the time.
ME: SD, I don not. That's a lie.
SD: Yes you do. You're always like, "I'm tiered I don't want to go into work today."
ME: SD, I never say that. I might say that I'm tiered in the mornings sometimes but that's it.
SD: Yes you do. You say it all of the time.
ME: SD, that's it. I'm sick of the mouth. You're going to bed early tonight. Obviously with the way you're acting you didn't get enough sleep last night.
SD: What did I do? I didn't do anything.
ME: Yes you did SD. You're arguing with me and making up lies like me saying that I complain about not wanting to go into work all of the time.
SD: I didn't say that.
ME: Yes you did. Both SS and my BD hear you say. You're lying again.
SD: Oh I thought that you were talking about me saying that before we left the house.
ME: SD you're lying again.
SD: Well maybe it's something that I thought you said.
(Right like the time that maybe you took some of my makeup but you can't remember doing it after I found it in the kids bathroom and she's the only one that would have taken it.)
This can go on but I'm guessing that you're getting the general idea here. I am sick of it. Every morning, I don't want to wear pants. I don't want to wear that jacket. I don't want to wear those brand new pair of shoes daddy got me. I don't want to take my medicine. Whine whine whine. Complain, complain, complain. Argue, argue, argue. Unhappy asks, asks, asks multiple times to do the same simple freaking task over and over again.
I hate mornings with this kid. I have two other kids that I am trying to get ready too. It's not the SD show. It's get freaking ready for school and shut the heck up because Unhappy doesn't want to hear about how ruff you have it because of a stupid hoodie, which by the way is name brand and looks super cute on her. I had to tell her yesterday that if I hear her compalin about her new shoes one more time that I was going to go down to a second hand store and find her the unglyest pair of used shoes and she could wear those. If she wants something to complain about, I will give her something to complain about.
Any advise here?
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Not that it's not a good idea
Not that it's not a good idea but that wouldn't even work on my own bio.
I talked to DH when I got to work and he wants to call a family meeting about the behavior that has been going on during the mornings.
He wants to create a check list for all three kids and the moment that I hear complaining, whining, arguing, or have to ask more then once for something to be done which ever one isn't listening gets a check. For every check, that's 10 minutes early to bed that night.
I can completely identify
I can completely identify with that. DH and I delt with both SD and SS screaming and crying for over an hour when they were put to bed at their normal times.
DH and I created a check list and told them that everytime we heard screaming, crying, whining, and everything else that they get a check. Everytime. For every check it's 10 minutes off of bed time the next night. We haven't had an issue since. You should try it. It may not work the first night or the second but just wait. Your little on will catch on fast because it's not worth it in the end.
Holy Hell! Oh and my
Holy Hell! Oh and my positive outlook was gone when I opened the blinds this morning and saw fucking SNOW on the ground! UGH
I was raised to do what you
I was raised to do what you were told when you were told or else you get into trouble. Did I listen always? Nope. Then I had to deal with the consequences.
I can't send SD to school without her coat on. The minute BM finds out DH will be getting emails. I drop them off early so that I can make it to work on time which means that they are not allowed in the school. We would have the dutys out on the playground commenting. It's already cold where we live. And what should my response be? I can't handle a 7 year old so she gets her way because she doesn't want to wear a jacket? I don't think so. It's simple. Put your jacket on. Coats are a necessity when the weather gets cold. And I know her. She'd lose it if she just carried it around with her. I can't tell you how many jackets she lost when she first started school within a couple of months of school starting. I think it was around four in the first 6 weeks.
As far as ignoring her when she starts to get mouthy, I don't think so. She needs to learn respect. I don't care what she says but she does need to realize that she is a 7 year old little girl who has no place addressing an adult like that. She got mouthy. Now she's going to bed early.
Sorry, I know that you're just trying offer me advise, but you have no idea what this kid is like. You can't let her get away with anything. If you do, things will get worse with her.
Lol!!!!
Lol!!!!
I have the same clothing
I have the same clothing issues with my FSD7. It really is a pick your battles thing. I've gotten to the point of is she won't wear something I've told her, she has 5 min to put something on or she's going in her pajamas. I have no problem with her looking stupid and will willing volunteer to anyone that asks why she is wearing pajamas. If she chooses to not match, I volunteer the "she dressed herself". Or if she wants to argue with me endlessly about shorts vs. pants, I tell her to put it on and freeze. I don't care! I tell her the weather every morning and I suggest clothing options and if she then chooses to make a bad clothing decision, then so be it. Maybe she'll listen next time. But I definitely won't let it stress me out anymore. Or have her pick out clothes the night before and have them all laid out so there are no decisions to make in the a.m. Makes me feel better knowing my FSD isn't the only one though!!
DH would kill me if I ever
DH would kill me if I ever said anything like that to SD. I do like the second hand coat idea. She can have two options. One, her brand name hoodie. Or two, a nasty stained coat from a second hand store. If hse doesn't pick. I'll pick for her and she won't like my choice.
Every time she complains, she
Every time she complains, she loses a privilege. TV, a toy, has to be in her room, early bedtime, etc. Eventually - she will have nothing. It will be hard, and not fun, for either of you. When she has a morning of not complaining, she can earn stuff back.