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I agreed to do BM a favor now I'm regretting it and kicking myself for being such an idiot

smomof2's picture

One of my main pet peeves about BM besides her being a total looser and a nut job is that she would go to length to avoid spending time with ssons and yet when it comes to claiming credit, she's the first one to run her mouth about how she's their mother, those are HER kids, blah, blah, blah.

It was suppossed to be her custodial time from Friday till wednesday. But she asked us to keep the ssons sat night till sunday afternoon. Fine, we took them. then yesterday when she came to pick them up, she told SO that she has a conference all this week and can't pick up the ssons from preschool until 730. which means, SO had to pick them up on HER days(monday/tues). Well, SO has an important phone conference today till 630 and can't miss that in order to get the ssons before daycare closes at 6. SO asked me if I would be willing to pick up the kids. Stupid me, I said yes. Their school is on my way home from work, I figure it's not much of a hussle for me to stop by and grab them on my way home. SO then called BM and told her that he can't pick up the ssons for her today but I can do that. According to SO, BM was grateful. Whatever!

I woke up this morning livid with myself for agreeing to do a favor for BM. When SO first added me to the list of approved people to pick up, BM threw a fit, she even went to a lawyer to get me off the list. SO's lawyer made the case that as long as it's SO's custodial time, he can designate any responsible adult to pick up the children. At the end, after more than $500 in lawyer fees, I stayed on the pick up list. when I agreed to pick up the ssons I was thinking of them, I honestly love my ssons and don't mind spending time with them, we have our moments but overall I have a good relationship with them. When I agreed to pick them up form school, I was focusing on them. But now I'm realizing that BM is benefiting from this. I'm a woman of my words and I won't go back over it but damn SO for asking me in the first place and me for agreeing without thinking things through.

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BSgoinon's picture

---->One of my main pet peeves about BM besides her being a total looser and a nut job is that she would go to length to avoid spending time with ssons and yet when it comes to claiming credit, she's the first one to run her mouth about how she's their mother, those are HER kids, blah, blah, blah.

This is exactly how I feel about BM. to the letter.

I always kick myself after I agree to help the BM. But then I remember that I love SS, and any MORE time with us is less time with BM's stupid ass.

smomof2's picture

^^^^Exactly, that is why I am doing it. If I don't get them and SO can't and BM won't, that mean the school will charge $1 per minute per child after 6PM. Since the preschool contract is under SO's name and not BM(CO says preschool has to be under SO's name due to BM never paying her bills), SO might end up paying $180.