I posted earlier that BM has went to the state to have H send the child support through them. Just last Thursday BM yelled at H and told him she went to the state cause she was tired of wondering when he was going to pay her and she needed that money. OK first of all receipts and cashed checks show a very clear weekly pattern of payment. So last week I went online and paid the child support for last Friday on Wednesday. It cleared H account last Friday. So I check Monday and it shows he paid but did not get credit for it. So he calls and they explain that case did not actually start till yesterday and that the $ will get credited this Friday. So last night H tells BM about making the payment and not getting credit so he did not know when they would get it to her and he told her that he told the state that he did not want this to mess him up cause he was flush with her and current(never behind) so she said on I know you are current I told them that you always pay and pay regualr and she said well I will get it some time or another no big deal. WHAT??? you just blasted H last week saying he was inconsistent and late and you needed that money now it is no big deal. Shame cause you could have had it today when H picks SS up and now it will be sometime next week before you get last weeks payment. I slowly getting more convinced that she is getting state aid. Of course she would not want us to know that she is getting it and so she is just acting like she went to the state. Why would you do that and have your child support not paid regularly due to them and have it put on a debit card that charges you a fee when you use it when you could have kept on getting your weekly check and deposit it into your account...Why I ask I know why it is because you are a low down person trying to live off the goverment as much as you possibly can when you have no need to. There are people out there who truly need child support enforcement and help and she is not one of them. She has no idea how lucky she is for her Son to have a dad as great as H is. on and my the way she calls last night to see if 2 of her signifigant other's children could come with SS tonight for our visit with him. She made SS call and ask so what were we to say? I told H I did not mind the girls coming but it will not be a regluar thing cause we cannot visit with him if they are there cause all he will want to do is go in his room and play with them. This is our time with him not theirs. Is that ugly to think that way?