I have been married 20 yrs to an amazing man who had 2 daughters, a teen and early twenties when we met. We have our own 2 kids 17 & 19 of whom the sd's are eaten alive by jealousy. One lived in our state until the first of 4 gkids were born and they the country to raise them near their gp's. Karma prevailing, the gp they liked died so they moved 5 hrs away. The youngest sd is 38, bipolar, lazy, drug addict, sociopath, that doesnt work. We have aided financially always and she still calls with emergencies, lies, violence, arrests, all sorts of sordid stuff and sends mean angry emails, tweets, fb messages about us. The other sd, 41, we started seeing after 18 yrs. of angry, passive aggressive abuse towards her dad. After gathering his siblings near her and bad mouthing us, she professes to want a relationship however she wants gifts, babysitting and a free vacation home. She has made a mission out of coming and staying in our small home with 6 in her family. Not only is it slavery cooking and cleaning, its expensive there is never appreciation or help. The gkids are like mom depressed, ungrateful and whiney....My husband's shrink told him to draw boundaries so explained a hotel would be in order for 6 extra peeps. She actually argued with us! really? The shrink said expect to get kicked in the head with these sd's and keep it at a once a year interval. It was so much better with them a country apart but she is here to collect and we are being tortured by jealousy, money whining, and lining us up as summer camp. My husband is hurt beyond belief by both of them, and embarrassed by their behavior. How do we stay at arms length, not see them much, and not engage in issues as they are jealous of our kids, demanding, uncaring and angry? We both agree that they are beyond changing as they are old and plagued by mental illness from deceased mom. As color, these sd's never remembered his bdays, fathers days, return calls, invite us when his entire group of siblings are invited on holidays, remember our kids, or even call him 3 times he was hospitalized....its pretty unbelievable! Open for advise!