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I think I am about to blow a gasket. I need your imput on how to handle a situation...I may be overreacting but is bs

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Submitted by tryingtomakeit on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 9:58am

Ok..I dont know where to begin. I want to cry but I dont want to because then she (ex) would win. I think I more pissed off that hurt!~

So, I have come to the realization that my husband is going to talk to his ex on a weekly basis. He says its because of the sd and they only talk about sd. Well, last night we were tending to the garden and he my husband said, well I was talking to the ex last week and she was telling me what we need to do to make this garden better. Then he said...kinda tryingto explain hisself after ,he made me want to just puke, that he had called her about the sd and just asked about the garden.

Then today I saw a picture on FB and it had the ex in it and people and guess who was tagged....THE EX and someone had tagged it with our last name. What she used to be when she was married to my ex. This stung more than anything. I am pissed. I just saw it and i want to scream. I know it is probably baby in me. But, they have been divorved for over 10 years and what the hell Nobody has corrected it.

What should I do. If I say omething to my husband he will get all defensive. Should I just let it go and know I am the bigger person. Or should I ask him nicely that I never want to hear the ex's name or family unless it is to tell me they have died!

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 10:02am

1. Next time DH says "BM said... not skid related". Your response should be "Oh how nice that you two are so chatty. Do me a favor, don't tell me about it because your ass kissing makes me want to throw up." YES, I have this response on hand for myself because our BM is becoming chatty with SO again and its pissing me off this morning.

2. FB, you can't really help who tagged the pic. Maybe that's the only last name they knew of her. BUT, I would just be sneaky and report the picture.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 10:17am

Nope. Click on the photo and there is a button called options that shows up. Then click report.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 10:07am

I agree with Helena... I told my DH once, "I can't stop you from being BFF's with the BM if you're into that sort of thing, but PUHLEEZ spare me the chatty details. I don't want to know because it's just WEIRD on sooooo many levels."

I don't know if it's stopped him from chatting with her, but at least I don't have to hear him regurgitate their entire conversation to me on a weekly basis.

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Submitted by Ghost Rider on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 3:00pm

I like the "just weird" comment myself because it is the truth.

I end up jumping down my DH throat for a year when it came to chatting up with the BM.

The conversation she tried to get into with him was rather personal and none of her damn business, Keep it on the kids and move on.

She had no business to know what I am making and what his finances are. That is what the courts are for.

She had no business to know what we were doing either. The kids were not there so what him and I do is none of her business.

When he finely got it through his thick skull to keep her out of the finances that is when she started her threats. "Oh yes it is my business. I am the one that had your kids and I need to know what you are making so I can relate it to Child Support Services. You better be filing your income tax, I will find out if you are making money under the table, I will turn you in for tax evasion!! So it is best you just tell me."

Gaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwlllllll..... What a money hungery bitch.

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Submitted by Helena.Handbasket on Mon, 05/07/2012 - 3:16pm

This why I hate when SO tells skids about his money or how much we spent on something. I KNOW BM could take him to court and get double or triple what she does right now. The only thing stopping her is that she knows he'd fight for custody. SD wouldn't move at this point, so she'd having nothing to lose there, but SS would.

When I spend money I tell him flat out, don't discuss my financial business.

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Submitted by B22S22 on Tue, 05/08/2012 - 7:03am

My DH told the skids how much each of my children receive in social security each month. Apparently, they were "curious" as to how I supported them without their dad being alive (meaning, I don't receive child support, so how can I afford to do all these things for them, because the BM always uses the "not enough CS to do that" excuse)

I blew the top off my head on that one!!! I yelled and yelled and yelled at my DH that it was none of their effing business, and just who the hell do you think they're going to run and share that little morsel with?? And why does HE even CARE how much my children receive? The only way he knew is because he saw the SS1099's I receive for tax purposes. I never once shared that information with him, I only shared that I do use a small amount of that $ every month for their "extras".

I work, am successful, and make enough money to care for myself, my children, my house even without the social security. Therefore, he shouldn't be concerning himself with, or sharing any of that information because it's PRIVATE.