Confused by SD10's Actions.. - Any Advice Would Be Very Much Appreciated....
Hi everyone,
I havent posted in a while as I was simply burnt out from work and from SD and BM...
SD has advised us that she will live with us next year when she turns 12....she is 10 now and will be 11 in a few months..
Ok here's the situation.. A few months ago SD did not want to go home, she wanted to live with us now and not wait until next year as things are bad at her BM's.. so we had a long chat with her to make sure it wasn't because she had a little fight with her BM and that's why she wanted to move now..long story short.. we told her we would have to call the Police and Child Services to discuss and report this.. so we called the Police and Child Services and let them know what this chid's request was..
After a long conversation with all involved it was better for SD to go back to her BM's house as scheduled and we would see what we could do..anyway given her age it was suggested that she stay with ther BM until she turns 12 unless she runs away..
So ok after all this crap, fighting..dealing with the Police, Lawyer and Child Services...last weekend we were having dinner and DH made a comment about the school that SD will be going to next year when she lives with us and she said well I'm not sure what I'm going to do.. WTF..ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME>>>>> OMG>>>
How the hell do you handle this??? I mean really..what in the world is going on here....help..... :?
This sounds very common. As
This sounds very common. As she gets older and nears her teens, her friends are going to take more and more importance.
I guess I don't understand why the cops and CPS have been involved. Are there problems with her mother's house?
I agree her friends will be
I agree her friends will be very important but she also has friends at our house..
As I said below the reason CPS and the Police are involved are due to BM's past behaviour..we were told to include them in any significant issues so that way it is reported and on file..
My gosh I hope things get somewhat easier....
Z
my step brother would do
my step brother would do stuff like this all the time. he constantly moved back and forth between his mom and his dad whenever he was upset with the other.
it will be over eventually...just ride the wave till then. i swear i might end up taking drugs to get through it!
i don't know what was so serious to call the authorities though. sounds like there is more to the story.
Well I sure hope this
Well I sure hope this resolves itself and to be honest I hope she does stay at her BM's as I'm to a point I'm just fedup with this whole mess..
The reason we called the Police and Child Services is because Child Services has been involved several times as ex-boyfriends have put in complaints about BM.. and my SD has some issues at school so CS was involved.. so we were told by our lawyer due to these ongoing issues with BM to call the Police and CS to make sure everything is documented and everyone is on the same page.. BM had had 4 guys live in her house in the past 5yrs and some were very colorful people to say the least..
I so hope this works out and SD will go to University and have a happy successful life.. I cant give up on her I just cant.. so damn frustrating.. arghhhh
Hey hypovic..just breathe you
Hey hypovic..just breathe you cannot lose your mind..no way..life is too short and we must make the best of it..in the end it is what it is.. and if you cannot change it then it's not worth making ourselves sick over it..
enjoy life and rediscover yourself, you may just love what you find..
Z
Do not despair, hey your son
Do not despair, hey your son will be back at some point but for now he is 17 and that is a very selfish, selfserving age..not his fault it's all part of growing up..he needs to find his way...
Do something that you've always wanted to do..
If you want to chat just send me a message and we can chat..
Z:)