So I have been a stepmother for almost 3 years. When I got with my now husband I did not have a connect with the kids right off. they were both still in diapers . and we saw them 4 days a week. I work online so I became a stay at home mom. I did/do everything with them all school stuff . and constantly taking them and doing fun stuff with them.
the youngest kid is now 5 , he and I overtime bounded and he is very sweet and lovable.
as for his eldest child. we just never bounded he is loud , lies and breaks stuff constantly. He gets in trouble at school constantly, his bio-mom always makes excuses for his behavior. by the end of our custody time each week he is usually back to be good. but when he gets here on Saturday is is horrid. I know he gets alot of brainwashing from the other house, its not his fault. Also all his family has him on a pedestal and he can do no wrong , and the other child is often ignored . He pees on everything and poop smears ( he has aspurgers and is getting help)

I guess my problem is, I just have not gotten a bound with him. I thought it would take time but it never came. I can't stand when he's here. I still treat him great and I never want my poor feelings to rub off on him. He thinks I am great.

Is their something wrong with me for not liking him. I know alot has to do with aspurgers. but I am the only one who sticks to the doctors plan. Also their are behaviors that no one else deal with that have nothing to do with the disorder.