i married my college sweetheart after divorce of this wife of five years and two children to include her child he accepted as his own. The problem began before we married. while we were in engaged (yeaar) i never met the boys,or their mother, when I inquire about such a meeting my now husband who say" you don't need to meet her; she crazy". Well, i surely thought once we married and now consider ourselves a blended family I would meet the ex wife, instead I met only the children ages 10, 7, and 1 1/2, my husband would pick up and drop off the boys for a weekend visit with us, not once have i met the mother, she herself have dropped off the children at my home and mother-in-laws home and we still haven't met and find this rather strange..once again I in reqired to my husband on meeting the boy's mother it's always the same old statement, you don't need to meet; she's crazy. Well we move from the the state to another state because of husband job promotion. and lately he saying the boys are crying and missing him and therefore, he plan on relocating back to state and behind my back looking for jobs in the area.. shouldn't this be something we should had discussed and now I am expecting our lst child and happy with the location, but he is distance and treat as such and I am totally confused. Well, i shared my feelings with this move he had planned behind my back that I wasn't comfortable and that he doesn't seem to be able to balance his relationship with the boys and that he would nelegect me and my children if we make this move, but he insisst that the boys need him and that he plan on moving back to the state that we're only 8 hrs away from the boys, I am just ocnfused, we have nothing but disagreed the last few weeks with going behind my back am i wrong for feeling the way I do, as if it more important to please his ex- wife over me. Yes, I have gone over and above for the boys (even the one that is not my husband's, but he doesn't seem to appricate me either). So what do I do.. I thinking about returning to my parents home until i get another teaching job..if he goes through this move without taking my feelings in consideration.