Should he pursue DNA testing
Child support is almost over but my husband really questions whether she is actually biologically his or not. Should he pursue legally getting a DNA test? Can he when she's turning 18 soon? I'm not even sure the test results would be available before she turned 18. He obviously isn't wanting to know to get out of CS since it will be done soon, just wants to really know. Is it worth opening that can of worms? I have a feeling it would give her just another reason to ignore us until she wants something of course. But can he really be considered a jerk just cause he wants to know for sure since he was separated with BM around time of conception. One of the stipulations of their getting back together was another baby. And then the divorce was final before her first birthday. He is really looking back on things and questioning if she is really his.
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State of divorce was GA
State of divorce was GA
I'd leave well alone if it
I'd leave well alone if it were me. BM said, on more than one occasion, that the twins were not DH's and it's not impossible that she's right. Thing is DH is the only dad they know and I really would hate to have to do that to them. If the kids wanted to know for themselves then, by all means, go for a test. It's not like it gives him any refund on any monies he's payed out, right?
Um, yeah, I think he'd really
Um, yeah, I think he'd really look like a jerk.
Why NOW?
If his relationship with his daughter is already strained, I can't imagine what this would do to it.
He just wants to know. And
He just wants to know.
And I must say I really hope she is not biologically related to my sons. And if that makes me a witch so be it.
Does anyone know the legal standing on finding out at this late a date?
I didn't think about from the
I didn't think about from the aspect of the child might want to know... very good point. Thank you. I know I would definately want to know. My parents divorced when I was 6, but I look almost identical to my father's mother.
What would it matter now the
What would it matter now the only person it would probably really hurt is sd. If sd is already having issues know why bring more problems into her life. If the test were done and sd was DH then thats just going to make thing worst between sd and dh. If sd is not DH then sd is going to feel abandon by real biod and that BM is a liar.
I can understand that DH wants to know and I think he has the right. But how are you gooding to do this without causeing problems for everybody. When the kids are young and you could get away with sneaking a test by them, i can see doing that.
I'd just let it go unless sd brought it up and wanted to.
Since it really does vary
Since it really does vary greatly state to state, you would benefit from doing a basic internet check in your state. However, to date, the US Supreme Court has ruled (in enough cases to consider it now 'precedence') a DNA has nothing to do with whom it to be called 'Father' and whether or not child support is to be paid.
It's a bit of bullshit, but it's mostly done to protect the child.
Once support has been set, paid it's a done deal.
Next time she visits get some
Next time she visits get some hair (with root) and do the test unofficially. If you really want to know that badly.
Not sure what benefit it will give unless your DH wants to sue BM for all back CS and press charges of fraud and extortion.
If it were me, I would nail her ass to the wall with every legal means possible if I had been forced to raise a kid and support a kit that was not mine. While nailing the BM to the wall I would reinforce with my daughter that I was her dad regardless.
The relationship with the kid is completely separate from the BMs extortionist career.
IMHO of course.