I have three boys,10,12 and 14 and 2 step-daughters, 21 and 23. I was the custodial step parent for years and have been basically unhappliy married for 18 years. I stay for my boys because I know what divorce does. My oldest stppie is going through a resntful period with me,blmaing me for the fact that she di not go to private school and that my folks have given the boys some money for camps,etc (my parents are kind and generous, but the girls had lots of grandparents and so my folks are more like loving older firends to the girls and do nto give them $). Meanwhile, my husband is on a dry drunk,and loves that oldest blames me and not him...has even jumped on the bandwagon. He treats gilrs and boys very differently...never angry at girls, asks nothing of them, allows them to trash their room,kitchen,etc and simply does not notice...lots of guilt there. Here is the issue...we are about to go away fo 3 days to a remote cabin in the woods, all of us, for winter fun. The energy from the oldest is very subtle but there...husband gives no support to me ever. I just do not want to spend the time crying in the bathroom. I have a hard time separating and compartmentalizing and definilty do my paret to take it personally. I want to have fun. I want my boys to see me have fun. I just get this pit in my stomach and it shows on my face when she looks at everyone but me, or makes an off-color comment that my husband would coprrecxt in the boys, but never in her...help!