Was I wrong?
Hello all I'm new here and I have so much bottled up inside me that I have kept to myself for six years. I will try and keep this brief. You see for years BM has pretty much taken over the holidays even though we have a CO that states we have 50/50 custody. She always rubs it in my husbands face that he doesn't have a huge family so her family and her new husbands family are more important. Like my family doesn't count at all!! That makes me so angry. She always has some reason to take them extra time on Thanksgiving and Christmas. IE: Family in town who only comes once in a while, this could be her fathers last Christmas was two years ago and he's still alive, hell she inst even on speaking terms with her parents now!!!
OK so my husband and I had to move 400 miles away for work reasons and we at least paid our lawyer to draw up an amendment to the last CO stating that on our time for visits she is to take SS14 and SD10 to the airport (that is only about 21 miles from her house) according to the latest CO we were to have the skids for Thanksgiving, So we planed on flying them out on the 23rd and back on the 27th. They would miss no school. She stated that she did not want to drive from work to pick them up and then drive them to the airport, mind you she didn't work the day we needed them taken to the airport. She instead thought it would be better for her to just take them to her family dinner first then drop them at the airport Thanksgiving night and we could have them until Saturday! ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!?!?!?! She expected us to pay for air fair and only get to see them for two days. Mind you our trip to the airport is 87 miles from our home.
Then after all that we caved in and said ok it's not worth $1250. to only get to be with them for a day and 1/2 basically, she made it seem to the kids that we didn't want them to be here, again I was going to let that slide because over the years i have been made out to be the bad guy and the bitch when all I have ever done is love and take care of them. Then I find out that the BITCH DROVE them out of state to have thanksgiving dinner with some long lost family!! WTF?!?!?!?!?! I lost it!!!! I sent a text to SS14 telling him exactly what I said above minus the calling BM any names because no matter what I have never bad mouthed this crazy bitch to her kids. So then I get a threatening email from BM stating that I am trying to make her look bad and the kids hate me and if I don't watch myself she will take my ass to court!! So I guess my question is how wrong was I? I know I should have never sent a text to SS14 but I am at my wits end with this bitch!!! Does she have grounds for taking me to court for telling him the truth?
Any advice or scorning will be accepted here.
Thank you!
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Thank you for the reply. I
Thank you for the reply. I try to be hands on and you are right she acts like I am trying to replace her. When all I am trying to do is give them a good home with their father. As far as getting him to do anything I may as well give up on that. He claims he wants to be with them but this man is so selfish, I have to push for everything. So maybe I should just give up and stop trying?!?!?! I don't know
After six years I love these kids and I want whats best for them but I feel so tired because I have been fighting against a wall.
Hi Emerald, welcome to the
Hi Emerald, welcome to the site.
While I completely understand why you did what you did, it's never okay to bring a child into these types of adult situations in anger. You yourself know this...you admit in your blog that "I know I should have never sent a text to SS14". When push comes to shove, if your SKids have questions about why you & your DH don't want to see them, I suggest working the response out calmly with your DH...these things must be handled with sensitivity.
Your DH could take HER to court because she is hindering his visitation with his children per the CO...but in the same breath, technically, she could use your text to try to prove that you are attempting to alienate her from her children.
It's a horrid situation to be in, I know but there is only so much you can do.
Best of luck to you!
Thank you so much!! You don't
Thank you so much!! You don't know how happy I am to have found you all! I now know I am not alone and i now have somewhere to vent my anger so I don't have the let evil bitch know she is even getting to me.
Speaking from experience,
Speaking from experience, letting the BM's know that they get to you is THE WORST! I refer to the two (YES TWO!!!) BM's in my situation as Redneck & Nasty
They both have much more R rated names but I make them nicer for STalk 
Welcome...the people here (for the most part) are great for giving good advice, bouncing ideas off of & "being there" during times of difficulty. There are of course a few twerps, but you get that on every site, I'm sure.
Thank you. I too have a more
Thank you. I too have a more R rated name for evil bitch but thought I would tone it down for here. hehehe glad to be here!!! I already feel a huge weight has been lifted.
Man oh man two!!!!! I am sooo sorry to hear that 
Together I think we will all get through!!
I will make sure I do come
I will make sure I do come here first before I react again!! thank you for the warm welcome!
Sad but true. I need to just
Sad but true. I need to just get over it and start living my life for me! I don't have children of my own, I couldn't. I wanted children and was happy when I fell in love with DH and was going to get the opportunity to be a parent. Now I regret wasting all that money on going to court in the first place. It's like you said i need to come to terms with all this and realize these kids are a lost cause. For instance SD is mad at me because I wont buy her expensive Christmas gifts and let her take them to BM's house, we have never done that in the past and just because we moved 400 miles away what makes her think we will now? BM i'm sure!!!! So it's going to take me some time and support for you all but I am sure I can let it go. Thank you