Okay, so this is a slightly different one to post about. Not directed to my Step Kids, but to do with my own BD.

Background: I got pregnant young and told the BF that she was his, he did the whole 'its not mine', 'you've been sleeping around', 'you're trying to trap me' bullsh*t. So i went away and told had my BD without him. I saw him from time to time and would speak to him and try and persuade him to have a DNA test, and he would point blank refuse. He's not the best person in the world, far from it and not someone that I would choose to be the father of my child (My DH is however).

So seven year later, i am now married and for three years my DH has been her Daddy. But before he officially adopts her, should i contact the BF and try one last time?? There is nothing legally connecting him to her, so that would not be a problem. The problem i foresee is when she reaches late teens and starts to ask questions, i want to know that i did everything i could before letting my DH adopt her. She knows no different now, but with age comes comprehension.

Any feedback or different thoughts on this is most welcome!!