Things will never change
I guess its time to accept that fact! My resentment towards DH & SS is growing and I'm afraid I'm going to lose control!
SS14 continues to screw up every chance he gets! There are never any consequences for his behavior so of course he never learns anything! Not only does DH overlook most of his behavior but so do SS teachers and coach and any other adult!
SS failed English and Biology recently so BM emails the teacher to tell her she doesnt agree with the grading system, oh ok so the teacher gives SS another chance to get a better grade nevermind that she has already ignored the 3 missing assignments he has.
Last week SS decides not to attend his band concert instead goofs around at school until BM calls DH to let him know she can't find him. His grandparents and uncles were there to see his performance. BM took tv away as punishment. Fine, right?
SS comes to our house he gets tv, movies, going out to eat, hanging with his friends. He has a soccer game to go to but disappears, DH finds him at the mall! He yelled at him, took him to his game and coach played him because there weren't enough players even though he was an hour late! Of course! Then after the game DH takes him to dinner and brings him home to watch a rented movie! After BM reminded him no tv due to the band incident.
15 minutes after the shower was running the toddler I was watching stumbles into the bathroom as I follow him only to find SS14 sitting on edge of bathtub not a drop of water on him! He gets yelled at and then spends the day watching tv!
All this after I told DH that I no longer wanted SS to come on the weekends that DH would be at work. He got upset and accused me of not liking his son! Whatfuckinever! I told him if he would stand up and be the parent things would be different. It isn't my job to raise this kid!! DH promised he would talk to the kid and start working with him on his behavior and actions! Well this weekend was the first time we had him since then and no talk, no nothing!!
I give up! DH is not going to parent this kid! I've tried what I could but nothing works! Ugh!!
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I'm so sorry your DH won't
I'm so sorry your DH won't stand up and do his job. I'm pretty much in the same boat. The best I could do was to disengage. It seemed to help quite a bit in the beginning, and my SO was paying much more attention to his children's behaviors and making an attempt to correct them. Now he seems to be settling into it and reverting back to his old "parenting" style. If fact, it might even be worse because the two of them seem to now be trying to hide things from me, rather than fix them.
I disengaged for the most
I disengaged for the most part as well but DH never seemed to realize this! I can't believe that we discussed this whole situation less than 2 weeks ago and here he is acting like nothing! It's so frustrating!! I swear I'm going to land up in the looney farm!!