alcohol and the SM
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i have been wondering about this for a while now...does anyone know if there is anything illegal about a SM drinking while skid (in my case 7yo) is in your home? i'm not asking about moral issues. everyone has their own beliefs...i'm just asking about legalities and whether visitiation could be interrupted by BM if she doesn't like the idea of the SM having a few drinks at HOME while skid is there? by the way i live in ohio if that helps any with answering my question.
that's definitely
that's definitely understandable in your case, but i'm not talking about a drinking problem here...i'm talking about one or two weekends a month having a few drinks at home. not getting wasted and passing out or anything. i really have a hard time as seeing that as a problem and i was just kind of wondering if i would get myself in trouble by telling BM to kiss my ass about it next time she wants to stick her nose into my business unnecessarily. lol
i wasn't talking about
i wasn't talking about driving?? i think i said more than once i was asking about having a couple drinks in the evening at HOME. i would never condone drinking and driving and would NEVER be so dumb as to drive with any child after i've been drinking. and it would be even more dumb if i did that and then turned around and told BM. i don't think you've understood my post.
sorry, i did say it twice in
sorry, i did say it twice in the original post and once in my reply to you that i was speaking of drinking at home. but we apparently disagree on this one.
in my situation we are not too worried about BM trying to change the CO. she's too worried about things that will give US the opportunity to change. she knows for a fact that if she pays for the CO to be revised, she's got a lot more to lose than gain.
lol...thanks sourgirl!!! at least someone sees what i'm trying to say here!
that's like my exact
that's like my exact situation. ugh i am so tired of the "debriefing" and waiting for the aftermath...BM texting with all the issues and problems she has found concerning the past weekend spent with us. "why did we do this, why didn't we do that...what were we thinking" and just generally hearing about everything we did wrong. "OMG SD saw a bottle of VODKA?!?! why can't we get through one weekend without getting DRUNK?!" lmao
Unsure about legality but
Unsure about legality but there is specific language in SA my DH has outining guidelines. Was recommended by mediator as standard language. Has never been an issue but BM was active alcoholic for a few years - well before I met DH.
"It's all that gets me
"It's all that gets me through some weekends."
ohhh yeah i feel you on that one!! thanks a lot, your info helped because it is not in fact stipulated in the CO. BM just acts like we're alcoholics because we have a couple drinks on a weekend that may HAPPEN to fall on one of our skid weekends.
i know exactly how you feel!!
i know exactly how you feel!! i think as long as i am adult enough to limit myself and not get plastered it is my business if i want to take the edge off a little bit!!
I drink in front of my SS -
I drink in front of my SS - his mother drinks quite a bit in front of him so I seem like a light weight when compared to her. I don't think it could stop anyone from your skid coming over. I drink in front of my bio as well so have a drink and don't worry.
not reading all the other
not reading all the other replies.... don't have the time right now.... but I am a SM I also live in OH I do not drink in front of skids nor do i drink in front of my own children (I have two 12 yr olds and one 3 yr old). However, for the last several months I have found myself "needing" to drink just to deal with the skids summer visit. I am on the verge of leaving my SO mostly because of my skids and partly due to his lies. As a matter of fact I am drunk right now.... Didn't start drinking till SO and all the kids went to bed, but non the less...... need to drink to numb myself from this hurt..... ok so sorry this doesn't help you, but I guess I just needed to say this.