:(My partner's mother's 60th birthday party today and I've detached and I'm home alone.

SS is 10 and SD is 8. BF and me have been living together 2 years. Both SKIDS extremely rude and never stick to personal hygeine in our house. They constantly bicker and need to be entertained 24/7. BM was very angry when their father moved here initially cos it's miles from her house so the impromptu dropping off of skids when she wanted to get rid of them stopped. As a result, she said many bad things to the children about him and me in the initial stages of our relationship, things like he didn't care and was not intrested in them. This has had a really damaging effect.

Background is that BM left BF for SSex partner before SS was 2 so they had no real opp to bond anyway. Anyhow, according to both children BM is just living with "a friend" consequently they just think that their father abandoned them for me altho she left him for a same sex relationshipmany years ago.SS has swallowed this hook line and sinker and constantly plays BM and BF off against each other. BM feeling guilty falls for his little ploys every time.

SS meanwhile has become increasingly odd over the last year. He cries before coming because he knows if he kicks up enough stink he can stay at home with BM. He thinks the sun shines out of her butt and doesn't even give her a minute's peace. What is really worrying is that he still wears diapers and in school he soils himself. He dosen't even want to go to school. Altho he poos himself, BM still lets him watch films with dxplicit content not appropriate for his age. He touches women's boobs and things and is just plain odd. When partner tried to get him over for contact time 2 weeks ago he wouldn't come cos he says it's too strict here. Only thing I've instigated is washing hands, kids telly off at 7, eating at table and not starting food till everyone's been served. He said to partner that he was never strict in the past i.e. before he met me! When sitting at the table both skids pull faces at each other while BF is serving food. They think I don't see. I ignore it most of the time but it is very hurtful. SS is having councelling at the moment. Bio mum has almost got Munchhausen by proxy. He has got problems but she just wants him labelled to get sympathy. What he could do with is a good slap! What gets me is that he would be too young to remember his parents together anyway. Why would he start having probs about his Dad being with another woman NOW. It's just rubbish and he's hearing a load of old codswallop from his BM.

Anyhow upshot is they've gone to their granparetns over the weekend. I'm not missing them one bit but I'm sad that the grandparents wanted them there at the expense of having an adult weekend with BF me and S/B in law expecially when the SKIDS will be staying with them for 2 weeks in August anyway. Not only does the BM give crap but also the BIo grandparents. They won't disipline SKIDS either and I just can't sit on my hands while they always yell at the top of their voice to be at the centre of attention, pig out at the buffet showing no consideration of others, put on baby voices and just generally think that the world owes them something.

Any comments would be much appreciated!