SS28 did not grow up in this house, but he used to refer to the house where he and his BM and family lived as HIS house. DH and I were high school sweethearts almost 40 years ago. We split up, etc. each had lives -- his included 3 children, I had none. We got back together after DH was diagnosed with cancer and decided he no longer wanted to remain in his marriage -- that was 10 years ago. Children were 20, 18 and 16 at the time. 18 year old and 16 year old cussed me out, met their dad at the curb with BM and garbage bags of his stuff and told him they decided he got the other car..... 20 year old disowned him for over 5 years. 16 year old was off and on for years and now doesn't have anything to do with us over money not available for her wedding and 18 year old moved in with Dad and let BM in the apartment to snoop.... oh.... long, long story of poor boundaries ... never any apologies -- BM soon remarried to a long lost love, but alas, wrote asking for $15,000 less than a year ago because she and hubby are in debt....... I sometimes wonder if SS now 28 is here to spy or steal... often talks to BM on phone while he is here!!!! CRAZY! DH is just so happy to have a relationship with one kid, he accepts all the BS!!!