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strugglingat28's picture

Submitted by strugglingat28 on Wed, 10/10/2007 - 8:44am

I think its finally rolling up in to a tragic ending for my husband and I. My heart is broken, but I can't do this forever. I don't know what to do or how to work through this horribly painful process.
We own a business together...wow, what to do about that?
Legal advice?
How can I get through this?
I don't know if I can take this stress. Personal advice for strength?

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littlegrlzx4's picture

Submitted by littlegrlzx4 on Wed, 10/10/2007 - 8:57am

I'm so sorry for the pain you're in right now. There's so many feelings- I remember.

A few words of advice:

* Get a good lawyer and a good shrink. Treat your lawyer like a business (they certainly charge you like one) and get the venting, support and emotional support from a professional or other support group. The lawyer should be able to advise on how to file, family law issues and certainly business/communal property.

* It sounds like it's taken you a LONG time to get to this point. You might be surprise how much better you feel sooner after the wheels are in motion. My divorce was a long time coming and the actual work involved in ending the relationship felt OK- every step let me take back a little of my life and my sanity. Sure it hurt and was not fun, but I started to realize that by taking action and not having to feel bad anymore, I actually felt a lot better.

* Lastly, your stronger than you think. You're completely entitled to feel like s*** right now. But you'll feel better and you CAN do it if you want to.

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Submitted by Hanny on Wed, 10/10/2007 - 10:00am

But littlegrlzx4 gave you some good advice. Get yourself a good lawyer and a therpaist or support group. This will be hard, but I agree, after my divorce it was like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I took back my life and was resonsible for myself and no one else!

Good luck and be strong!

Hanny

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Submitted by fizzyfuzzy on Wed, 10/10/2007 - 1:27pm

Here's a big hug for you. Sometimes I wonder if I was stronger for staying in this or weaker. I think you're being very strong. Remember you need to be happy too. littlegrlzx4 did give you great advice. And definitely find someone you can talk to, be it at a church or a therapist or something!!
Sorry I dont' have any great words, but I'm always hear to listen!
Dawn