So my DH and I are working on getting our house ready to sell so that we can buy a one story closer to my family. A lot of stuff needs done, powerwashing the outside, painting everything, cleaning out the basement that is still full of his grandmothers stuff, and putting new tile in the bathrooms. Needless to say we are going to be busy. So my DH goes outside before work to powerwash the siding on the back of the house(the front is brick) it takes him most of the morning to do and he still has the deck to do. I realize he wants his son here but because of all the stuff we are doing over the next month he will hardly see him because he will be working on the house in the morning and working till after this kids bed time. So I told him today that maybe his son should go to his BM's for the next few weeks and just do eow. My DH was furious with me but with all this stuff to do I barely have time to watch our dd1 all day let alone his son. I just think if he isn't able to spend the time with him, why is he here? He isn't here to see me and his summer isn't going to be much fun stuck in his room because he is always underfoot and getting in trouble. If he could cooperate I would just have him help in minial tasks for the house. Help my DH by holding the tape while my DH tapes the ceilings and baseboards but he can't even be trusted to do that. I just do not understand why it is so awful to suggest he go to BM's for awhile where even if she is at work he can hang with his cousins and ride horses on the farm doesnt' that seem better for him?