Reminder of the backstory: SD is not my fiance's daughter, but he raised her since she was an infant as "Daddy". Her bio dad has now been involved again for 2 years, but we continue to have SD come over to our house during the week when her younger brother, my SS3 comes (2-3 nights a week).

Our daycare does a cute little birthday party when it's someone's big day. They are supposed to hand out invitations 2 weeks prior, and then she provides the ice cream/decorations and gives a nice present and the other kids give presents, too. It's something the kids all look forward to.

The Monday before SD's birthday, daycare asked me if I knew anything about the invitations and if we were doing them or if BM would take care of it -- because they were 'late'. So I asked FDH and he contacted BM about it. She said she'd do it. Two days later, daycare asked me again when I picked them up. I said we'd take care of it that night or BM would. FDH called her again (to make sure she hadn't already done them) and she threw a huge fit. She said she doesn't understand why it's such a 'big deal' and why daycare even does these 'stupid' invitations because there are only 5 kids there, blah blah. FDH explained that it's her tradition and how she does things and that invitations for 5 kids is not that difficult to do. So BM snottily said that she's make some on her ocmputer at work that day. Ok.

So the day of the birthday party comes (a Friday) and that morning BM calls FDH. She says, "I'm going out of town so I wanted to make sure that atleast you and SteppingUp would be going to SD's birthday party today since no one else will be there." Uhhh, well we were planning to go anyway, but really?

So NEITHER of SD's biological parents went to her birthday party, even though her bio dad would be picking her up at daycare for the weekend. We took the gifts home.

On Sunday, FDH dropped off SS3 at BM's house and gave her the gifts and the list of who they were from, for thank you's. They STILL haven't been written!! And this morning FDH asked daycare if she'd gotten the thank yous yet, she said no (a week later). So FDH calls BM and asks her about them...she says that it's OUR responsibility because WE were the ones at her party. WHAT?

Wow....Once again, anything that is the SLIGHTEST bit of a hassle for BM, she WILL NOT do it.