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Submitted by marissamae88 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 2:04pm

I do enjoy being a stem mom I really do. I love my SO's kids. The oldest I had the hardest time with but he came around and now I feel sometimes we are closer then him and my SO. Yesterday I picked him up like everyday from school and asked if he was going to boxing practice. He said yes my uncle is going with me. Okay so I take him home and he went down the street to his uncles house. His uncle is 15 and they live in the same apt complex as us. His uncle actually already left. They box at different gyms so if his uncle already left most likely my little one doesnt get to go. So he came home very upset and said he wanted to go running and he wanted me to go with him. I told him no because I am cooking and I have your three brothers I cannot leave them alone. I told him to run by himself. We live across the street from high school and he can run on their track. He says no because he will get jumped and robbed????!!! What? Why would that happen? He says it happened before a couple months ago. I was like I never heard of this incident he says he didnt tell anybody. I highly doubt that because he needs tons of attention. So when his dad gets home I ask him to tell the story to his dad. He starts to stutter and finally admits he lied. Is that a normal lie for a nine year old? That someone jumped and robbed him? I was in shock but my SO didnt think it was a big deal. I dont want to overlook something if its a big deal. Any similar experiences out there?

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Submitted by simifan on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 4:09pm

Um my 8 almost nine year old is out by himself all the time. We live in a safe neighborhood & he plays with the other kids. Why would you coop up a 3-4 grader?

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Submitted by marissamae88 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 2:23pm

When I was nine I left my house all the time and nothing ever happened to me nothing even close. Right now the high school has a bunch of sport activities going on and everyone knows us and him so its not like I sent him in the middle of the ghetto by himself. The country has bad things happen as well but I cant lock him in the house waiting for someone to escort him to play outside. The kid lied and made up a story that was pretty awful I mean getting jumped is a pretty serious thing. That was the reason I wrote this not because he would be by himself.

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Submitted by lexaprotakemeaway on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 2:29pm

I'd say it's normal kid behavior for a 9 year old to lie trying to get out of something he/she didn't want to do. My SD13 still does it on occasion, but not as much since she knows I'll call her on it if it sounds like B.S.

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Submitted by Asher10 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 2:35pm

I would be really annoyed if i were you but standing where Im standing i think it's kind of sweet,hear me out! lol He thought of a lie that his little mind thought would make you want to jump up to protect him while he's running at the track.no premeditated thought went into it,he just said the first thing that came to his head to get you to go with him.If it was a premeditated or prefabricated lie I might be a little more inclined to say what a little jerk.I think it was impulse and nothing more.I do think he needs to be talked to about the severity of the lie though.but maybe try to understand where it came from first and then get angry later.

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Submitted by marissamae88 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 2:39pm

I have to work on the angry later part but I like how you thought about it from a different angle. Maybe I should start doing work on seeing what he sees maybe Ill understand his choices better

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Submitted by marissamae88 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 5:11pm

My SO said you should never lie and something along the lines of it being bad but when I was his age and if I made a story up like that my mom would of probably hit me. Not that I am saying he deserved a hit or anything but I just expected a little discussion with him and us. I was confused by my SO's reaction and I wanted to say more but I didnt want to seem like a I know better than you because I have no children.

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Submitted by marissamae88 on Thu, 03/17/2011 - 5:24pm

I get worried about this because his BM has told the most outlandish stories about my SO and his family. She tried to say that my SO's brother tried to molest one of the boys and its gone pretty far. Everything of course came to light and she was high when she said it but I just dont want the boys thinking its normal to be able to tell these stories. She is not all right upstairs there is a screw loose and I dont want them thinking they can do it because their mom does.