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Submitted by pastepmomof3 on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 12:48pm

I've been off this website for a few months, mostly because of being busy, but also because things have been relatively calm in the stepkids realm. Until this weekend. And let me clarify - it's not the SK - it's the BM. My DD just turned 3 on Tuesday and DH and I decided to throw her a little party with family and close friends since both SD and SS would be here this weekend. No biggie. Everything is going fine until the party when all of the gifts are pulled out. SS's gift was the last one and when DD pulled everything out, they were all stuffed animals wrapped in grocery ads. Still - not a problem...until I look at them. She got 4 stuffed animals - a small pink angel bear and then 3 really small (McDonald-size) stuffed animals - a duck, a frog, and a bear. The really small animals were dirty with stains and a funky smell. I put them up on the counter where DD couldn't reach them. Of course the more I think of this, the more I am fuming at the audacity of BM to send this hand-me-down trash for my daughter to play with and seriously read to take these dirty toys and shove them down her throat. I've talked with DH who is mad but wants to hold off on saying anything wanting to use it for future discussion but i want to do something now. I've considered putting the animals back in the bag and giving it back to HER and telling her i'm not her trash disposal service. I don't know folks - i'm just so pissed that anyone would allow their child to give another child something like that. I can guarantee that anything i've ever gotten for SS or SD has always been brand new at least - it may not have been the most expensive thing but at least it was new and clean. Seriously.

For those of you who are a little devious, i need some suggestions on how to handle this because i am just beyond pissed.

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Submitted by Snowflake on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 3:09pm

My first thoughts as well were that SKIDS wrapped up the gift. Reason being because I bet that BM wouldn't even go through the trouble to give biokid a present. SS was probably embarrassed and wanted to give biokid a present like everyone else and so he wrapped up some toys that he didn't play with anymore. The reason I think this is because they were wrapped in grocery ads.

I could def be wrong though. Perhaps you could thank SS for the gifts and ask him where he got them from. If he says that BM did that - then I would get mad at her for being so rude.

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 6:28pm

I say ignore it. Could ss have chosen those little toys himself to give? Could ss have snuck those in when bm didn't know? Even if bm did choose and wrap the gifts, who cares? On my dd's 1st bday, ss brought a gift for her. (they are half sibs). He was SO excited and proud. We opened and found a black onesie with a skull and crossbones on it. It was from one of those adult stores and here was nothing 'baby' or little girl about it. Plus that type of stuff is totally opposite of who we are. Anyway, we 'ooh'd' in front of ss and went on tothe next gift. Dd never wore he onesie, ss never knew any differently and bm never knew anything either. Had we made a fuss about the 'unacceptable' gift we would've hurt ss feelings and it would've opened the doors for bm to turn ss away from having a relationship with his sister. So I say ignore it. Just throw the toys away when ss isn't there and never mention it again. If he asks just say they are somewhere around. And if bm DID deliberately give you those trashy gifts, hen she did it to rile you up. You'll be giving her the satisfaction if you play into her games. Take he high road and ignore it.

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Submitted by IslandofDreams on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 6:45pm

I agree with TX. The bigger situation you make out of it, the more BM wins in this situation. Do not say anything to her. It was probably the SS who grabbed his own gifts to give your DD. My SD actually did that one year for my DS. Kids do that kind of thing. They want to give a gift , so they look thru their own toys for a gift to give. They know their BM won't purchase anything for your DD.

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Submitted by FedUpFallon on Sun, 02/13/2011 - 6:57pm

I would go to the website http://www.shitsenders.com/ and send her a bag of Gorilla shit for her bday. LMAO }:) Gorilla shit smells worse than the others. }:) The best part is that it is totally anonymous- she will never know it was you and you can laugh your butt off!! }:)

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Submitted by IslandofDreams on Fri, 03/04/2011 - 9:39am

LOVE the link! Will definitely be using it soon....So many people who SOOO deserve this treat!!!

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Submitted by pastepmomof3 on Mon, 02/14/2011 - 12:38pm

Well - i didn't say anything to her - i guess my senses came back to me. DH and I discussed this all day yesterday and I was fuming mad around him but SS knew no differently. SS is 9, so I think he knows better but knowing SS, he had to say something to BM. I'm just so aggravated by the situation but she knows no better. In fact, I planned on mailing out the thank you cards tomorrow. I'm sure SS had good intentions but I really think it was quite tacky of BM to allow SS to give dirty used toys as a gift for someone else but really, after speaking with DH, i guess my expectations were too high. I honestly didn't expect anything - i think nothing would've been better in this case.

I do like the idea of the Gorilla poo though...LOL...might just have to send that anyways. }:) Thanks for the idea!