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What is the hold up?

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Submitted by mom23ms on Thu, 02/10/2011 - 2:14pm

So I moved out of the house on Sunday because I couldn't take SO's daughters anymore. I told him once he started to get a grip on them then POSSIBLY I could and would come back but not until he proves to me that he is at least making an effort to parent them.

Well...as of today he has yet to tell them I moved out. I know, you might ask why would I care? I guess I was hoping if he told them then MAYBE just MAYBE a light would go off in their head and get them to think "hmmm....maybe "ME" wasn't so bad to us." "ME" did alot of stuff for us and took care of us and we treated her like shit (and that is the language they would use."

So I guess I am wondering what the hold up is? He begs and pleads for me to come back and to bring my kids back because he misses us, but by not even letting his daughters we moved, he hasn't even attempted to try. I am NOT putting myself and especially my kids through this again.

Does he think that I'll move back before they figure it out of he has to tell them? I hope he doesn't hold his breath, because that sure as hell isn't going to happen.

Now instead of being sad, now he is just pissing me off.....

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Submitted by mom23ms on Thu, 02/10/2011 - 3:43pm

He has them every day and a half. Then they go back to their mom for a day and a half, then back to him a day and a half. BM lives with her mom about a half mile around the corner. Even though it was his day on Tuesday and Wednesday to have them, the mom asked if she could keep them for school stuff so he picked up two shifts at work. They have NO IDEA.

I'm starting to think he would NEVER have them back over just so they wouldn't know. Which leads me to believe is he just trying to "protect" their freakin feelings or is just in denial?

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Submitted by MamaBecky on Thu, 02/10/2011 - 6:15pm

He is definitely counting on you caving and just coming back. Dont. I dont mean dont ever go back...that's for you to decide...but dont go back quickly. Dont fold. Dont give in. Make him do what he needs to do before you go back if that is in fact what you really intend to do. Maybe his kids will be upset that your gone and things can get better and you can go back. Maybe they will do the victory dance and party. You deserve to know and see what comes of it so that you know the choice you are making is the best choice for you. Hold out!