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Ambz13's picture

}:) I am so mad my sd6 last week was burning stuff on her light bulb. I started smelling something burning. i go up stairs and it is smoking. she got in a lot of trouble we took her light out of her room and took toys away. and all the things we had plan that week. we gave her light back to her the next day. and today she did the same thing. what can we do to make her not do this or even think of something like that. we explained last time what could happen, the house burning down, family can get hurt, all of her stuff would be gone, wouldnt have a place to live. she just don't get it, i dont don't understand. to remember you this child is the worst kid i have ever seen she lies, steels, does anything she can to get in to stuff. she hurts other kids. i just had a baby 10 weeks ago. and i just dont know what to do anymore. we are taking her to a behavior class and theraphy. nothin is working. my life would be to wonderful with out her. but i love my husband so much its not his falt. the other day we had people over working on our house and she thought it would be cute to sing really loud and throw toys down the steps. we have tryed everything to change the way she is any advise? please help!!!

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hismineandours's picture

My ss used to do this with his light bulb. He had to go without one for quite awhile. Someone bought him a lava lamp for his 9th birthday. He was putting his clothes on it and burning big holes in them-that had to be taken away-When my dh was downstairs once-he managed to light a box of 36 kitchen matches-again he was about 9. He also used to say he heard voices to burn our home down (then later said he made it up). He moved out. That was my solution. He is 12 now-just eoweekend now and he has "grown out" of it.

ddakan's picture

She obviously wants attention. You take the light and never give it back. You pack up the toys that she throws down the stairs into a bag and put them in the attic.

You bust her ass for doing things that could burn the house down. You don't let her run feral just to keep her out of your hair. If she insists on being a butthole, then she can do it while staying in the same room with you. No more isolation for this little destroyer.

You had a baby. She isn't a valuable baby and she knows it. I was 12 when my brother was born. I wanted to be as valuable as he was to the family, but I wasn't. His dad was my step dad and I never knew my dad. The only mother I knew was my grandma, but my mom took me away from her at age 8 and tried to raise me herself.

There are deeper issues than that she is just satan. Perhaps BM is satan and can't help sending her genes into the sd. Give her grace, love her like your own and refuse to let this situation beat you.

You are a new momma and it is a hard adjustment when there are skids involved. (I had a baby and we each had 3 bios). You just have to love relentlessly and hold the kids accountable.

By the way, you can take the door, the toys, the dresser, whatever it takes to help her understand safety. You can allow her to earn these things back when she can be safe.

Good luck Smile

Ambz13's picture

thank you everyone. al the advise really helped. BM is not in her life since she was 2 she dont remember her BM. we think! but yes her BM is crazy and i think we might be too. husband says the same thing and thats her own BF. and the reason she had a light is because we dont have over head lights in our bed rooms.