Right so a few things have happened recently, I've come to realise that i really don't care about the ex and that if anything, she probably cares more than i do.

Well first thing, i'm SO SO SO proud of my hubby, the ex tried once again to get us to have the kids for longer than agreed, so he put his foot down and said that if she didnt keep to the agreed then he simply wouldnt collect the kids. (This is something he hated to do, but just couldnt let her get the upper hand again). And because he stuck to his guns, he did it. And i couldnt be happier with him.

Another thing, whenever the ex is around me she acts like the perfect mother, all sweet. Even said the other week that we have to work as a 'parenting team'. Which i totally agree with, but this is not something she has ever demonstrated before... as we all know, its, do as i say etc etc. It suddenly dawned on me that she's just an insecure little girl thats just trying to impress me, which she couldnt do in a million years after her history.

Also she's accused us of being too strict in the past, so my Hubby informs me when he got home today that she's adopted one of our methods to get the girls to sleep. If they misbehave at bedtime then they get their teddies taken away and only get them back the next night if they behave for the rest of the night. 'She' thought that was too strict, but voila... shes doing it too now and they're sleeping better.

I know this wont get many replies, its just so good to finally have some perspective and know that i shouldnt lose sleep and that the quality of the time that the kids have with us is tempered with the right balance of love and discipline and if she doesnt like it, then TOUGH. I DO NOT CARE!!!