I knew she was doing this, but it just came out finally. SS14 just told us that BM told him that she can't pay him his allowance that she had set up w/him due to child support. Keep in mind BM a/k/a "Mange" constantly goes on vacations, (5 this year already), to go boink whatever boytoy she has going on at the time. THANK GOD this was an earlier post/discussion on STalk and found out that it was perfectly acceptable to set out the "facts" being that BM receives 25% of DH's retirement on top of her getting her full retirement, the house and all furnishings, etc.

We sat down and explained the court order finances in factual terms. SS had been resenting DH and myself ever since BM welched on her agreement she had with SS in July, using DH as her excuse. One of many, many PASing behaviors.

Previously, I was under the impression it was not ok to discuss divorce terms/finances w/SS because we didn't want to PAS on our end. STers said in a fairly recent post that it was perfectly fine to set out the "facts" to SS and I was ready for when the time came. I cannot tell you wonderful it feels to set the record straight. You could just see his ill feelings toward his DH vanish almost immediately when he learned the truth. Finally! Thank you so much everyone!!!