So, SD14 is in marching band. They're performing this weekend, and one of the songs is Lady Gaga's Poker Face.

Apparently BM has been telling anybody who listens about DH - he's a hardcore Army Ranger who is into death metal, easily angered, intolerant, etc. We've seen evidence of this when SD14 will tell me about things BM has said about us, and insisted that I not tell DH because "Dad might get mad!" or when talking about a future boyfriend being disrespectful - "Dad would get mad and beat him up, huh?"

SD14 was talking to her band instructor, gushing about their upcoming program. "Oh yeah, my dad loves Lady Gaga, he'd think this is great!" The band instructor says, "I thought he was into death metal..." obviously puzzled. SD14 says, "Well yeah, he likes that stuff too, don't listen to Mom, she doesn't know what she's talking about."

While DH was telling me this, I was thinking to myself - all these years, and BM still lives in LaLa Land when it comes to DH - but when he got to the last line, I sputtered. I can't believe that SD14 would even say that to another adult. I suspect as she gets older, she and BM will lock horns more and more often. We may end up getting custody if it gets too bad. As it is, SD14 has long since learned to look at BM with a skeptical eye. And that's without hardly any visitation/influence from us. There's hope, ladies!

In other news, BM pitched a "woe is me, everybody I love is dying!" because her 80-something-yr-old grandmother and her HS boyfriend died this last week - she dumped the entire household (including feeding, caring for, and getting SD14's 6-yr-old brother to school) on SD14 for the week. BM is still unemployed. There hasn't been a hint of increasing CS. We're still waiting for the shoe to drop.