I can't give all the details, but after I defended SS versus Grandpa (my FIL), DH stepped in to defend me and SS and he went a bit too far versus his own parents, so MIL told us we need to move out.

We had guests, so DH embarrassed his parents in front of the guests, but it only happened because FIL embarrassed SS in front of the guests. I hate it when adults think that they should be treated with respect simply because they are older and don't think that children should be treated with the same respect.

Anyway, MIL knows why she told us to get out. By the end of this month we will have paid back all money we borrowed from her. We were planning to stay just until the end of the year and save a bit so as to have a decent start to next year, but that will no longer happen. We are out of here!

My stepkids are ecstatic. I am very very thrilled. DH is happy. This environment, although it was good on one hand because grandma and grandpa adore the baby and help out a lot, was becoming more and more toxic for the rest of the family. Our (DH & I) relationship with the kids is way more important than our relationship with his parents.