Serious grounding and possibly a slap. The TV would be out of their room. No DS, Xbox and chores. But, then I am a bithc. This is destructive behavior and that needs therapy. Next up is abusing animals.

If my DS did those things and a serious ass busting didn't cure him, I would put him in counseling. My DH would do the same with my SDs. Luckily my DH has never been opposed to spanking when they are deserved and we have pretty well behaved kids so I'm guesing the spankings worked.

Isolation from the family in a room with nothing but a very uncomfortable wooden desk, a pencil, pencil sharpener and a writing tablet.

The kid writes thousands of sentenses that address his behavioral infraction.

"I will not damage our home or property with a razor"
"I will tell the truth in response to any question"
"I will do my homework and turn it in on time"

Give him a sentence quota with a time limit. If he misses the quota he does it again until he meets the quota within the aloted time. For each sentence that does not meet established standards of neatness he does 10 more. I am not talking a few dozen I am talking hundreds or even thousands over several days or weeks.

The target message of the sentence keeps the infraction fresh in the child's mind. Isolating them from the rest of the family gives the family a break from the incorrigible child.

For the crap you describe I would light his ass up with a belt or paddle before sitting him at the desk to write sentences. I would light his ass up enough that every time he shifts on the seat of the hard wooden desk you hear a whimper out of him.

When his hands are cramping from writing and his fingers are worn to bloody stumps from manipulating a pencil I would then let him rejoin the family with his nose firmly plated in a corner of a room where he can stand for hours without makeing a sound until his nose takes of the shape of the corner it is pressed in.

A 10yo knows that this crap is wrong and that there will be EXTREME consequences including corporal punishment, loss of freedoms, endless hours of sentence writing, separation/isolationfrom the family and extended restriction of priveledges, activities or participation in anything pleasant.

Under no circumstance would I allow a 10yo to jeopardize the blissul condition of the rest of my family members.

We are not talking a 2yo here we are talking a 10yo pre teen who knows what he is doing is completely unacceptable. Implement punishments that will give him that message consitantlyand severly until he complies with the behavioural standards he knows he should be complying with.

If I was your DH and that kid spit on my hair brush he would be pulling that hair brush out of his ass and would have to go to the doctor to get bristles pulled from his tonsils I would have that brush so far up his ass. He would also have licked every spot of tooth paste off of the walls until his toungue was work raw.

Grrrrr! If he does not have some medical reason for this crap like he is missing his entire cerebral cortex I would have ZERO tolerance for that crap.

This crap would be a challenge for me and I can assure any child that I can make their lives more misrable than they can make mine. }:)

There is a life long benefit to the sentence writing punishment. The kid will have the most beautiful hand writing for the rest of his life. If he repeats the same infractions after writing a few thousand sentences on that particular violation have him write them in different languages. You might end up with a kid who is fluent in several languages if he does not get a clue in a hurry.

Let me know when you are implementing the sentence writing so I can go buy stock in a pencil company.

All IMHO of course.

Best regards.

This child needs therapy. That's it. He needs to see a psychologist immediately if not sooner. He is displaying serious psychological issues. Razors?!?!?! Dangerous!!! He's 10...Something has happened to this boy. Does he behave this way in school?

There is an underlying problem. I DO suggest counseling. I remember ss doing craY things too when he was 8. I thought he was ADD and thought maybe he had affects of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I had never seen a kid behave like that- full blown tantrums, screaming, destroying things when angry... We slowly took away things when he dis that and he literally lost everything in his room- no things on his walls, no tv, no video games because he was SO destructive. Anyway I tens to believe it was because he was having a hard time adjusting to his 'new family'. DH and I had been married 2 years, we had one DD together & were expecting another (a boy at that), it was the first time in his life that he stayed 30 straight days with us in the summer...all that combined with he never dealt with his parents' separation. They were never married but 'broke up' when ss was 2. So no one ever talked to him about it and he never felt he could talk to anyone about it. He had tons of emotions going on in his little 8yo body and enough changes to stress out an adult. We never took him o counseling because shortly after that began a 4 year period of seeing him less and less. He's now 12 and at least not destructive! He had time to mature. For you though, I wouldn't let it go. If punishment doesn't work then I really really suggest counseling.

I'm wondering whatever happened to long punishments? We would be confined to our room only to leave for school, church, restroom and meal breaks for weeks at at time and sometimes a full month! Oh, of course there was also no TV or video games, etc. in the room with us - we could sleep, read, do homework, write, etc. - that's it! Finally, if friends called or stopped by asking for us they were told we were being punished, embarrassment sometimes works wonders for pre-teens & teenagers!