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Lillywy00's picture

I'll go first ...

"What if ... "the manager was forced to eat her pessimistic thoughts about one of the best work colleagues at the workplace including myself"

"What if ... I made quantum leaps in my career growth"

"What if ... more Disneyland parents reformed 180 in shorter periods of time"

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grannyd's picture

Lilly, I'm a tad confused but here goes:

What if all single fathers (particularly those with adolescent daughters) were required to wear armbands, revealing their status. Think how much positive energy would be spared for the innocent women who stumble into those dangerous paths.

Lillywy00's picture

Definitely! GrannyD 

Step Life needs manuals, charts, infographics, the full compilation with armbands and all...all the positive energy as possible ... it's very challenging a lot of times! imo

 

 

 

JRI's picture

What if these dads believed their eyes when their kids did something bad rather than not seeing it.

And, what if they didn't deny bad news.

Yesterdays's picture

What if when my husband dragged me to his mother's house to visit he actually talked to her or answered any of her questions rather than ignoring her when she asks uncomfortable questions and leaving me to answer them 

AgedOut's picture

what if ... karma wasn't a bitch and was just fair all around. you get what you give kind thing. 

 

here's a bonus what if:

what if life really was a Disney movie (aka:where are my damn singing & dancing dishes & household chore  doing woodland creatures???) 

 

 

 

Harry's picture

Everyone including myself. Had SL figured out and will have no problem hahdling it.   Then I moved in.  ???   That was before internet.  That's where there was no place for help.  Unless you live it, you really can't talk.  Non SP never get it.

  You explain something simple..  you had 13 month together with out kids .  You could spend Sunday in bed together.  [ thy that with ask] You can just hop in your car and go to McDonals for dinner.   [ thy that with SK. babysitting cost more then the food ] You could hop in your car and go to the movies [ try with SK] 

Person your talking to said.  We never did that.  Right 
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notarelative's picture

What if you texted your SD and asked her to call you regarding her dad's health, and she actually called?

(current response - crickets time one - second request she named a day she'd call, day came no call. I give up.)

grannyd's picture

Ouch to that lack of affection/concern/gratitude; it must have hurt your DH deeply. Having just visited my beloved, failing SF, blind and nearly deaf, in his nineties, I'm sad at how far he’s deteriorated and how important it is to maintain contact. My sibs and I owe our stepdad a lot, in every possible way, and we’d never neglect him. 

Your husband seems to have suffered from ‘guilty father syndrome’; which generally results in an underdeveloped adult with a dearth of conscience and a healthy sense of entitlement. According to what I’ve read, your SD ticks all the boxes plus, she got shorted some empathy genes (tho’ in her defense, not too much worse than some of her peers here on ST).

Yeah, 'blah, blah, blah, I sound like every oldster of my acquaintance, griping about the good old days when you could smack bottoms with impunity; no jail time to face.

notarelative's picture

The good thing is that DH doesn't know I asked her to call. He's, as we say, having memory issues. I have POA and will make the decision based upon his best interest. 

Yes, SD knows he has memory issues. I sat down with her in the fall of 2021 and outlined his diagnosis. Since then after every doctor appointment I've texted her the results. At most I get a "thanks" or "OK" in response.

This time I wanted to discuss a new issue. I asked her to call so I could discuss without DH being there. The discussion upsets him. There are treatment options. I am done asking. She's forfeited her chance for input.

PetSpoiler's picture

What if they found a cure for cancer? What if they knew for sure what is wrong with my little fur Princess and could cure her?

What if SS and SDIL actually reflected on their behavior and changed their behavior for the better?  

What if in-laws learned to respect boundaries?  

What if people in general, especially in-laws, learned to mind their own business?  

RockyRoads's picture

What if SO would understand his kids and ex are disrespectful and take actions to strengthen our relationship instead of catering to them.                                    What if I would get enough courage to walk away.                    What if my husband hadn't passed away and my life would have stayed the same instead of becoming something I don't want to be a part of.