I had to go over the paperwork for DH today and came across some notations that I thought might give you reassurance that you are not alone and explains why some of us feel the way that we do with BM's. I have girlfriends that are only BM's and they often will ask for advice about sm's. Some of these may make you giggle and others are just outright upsetting.

"BM called today and requested to change weekend" She stated that she had a work picnic and she needed the boys to come up to see her for at least a few hours on Sat. afternoon because No one at work knows that she doesn't have placement of the boys. She did not really ask to switch weekends just wanted to borrow them for a few hours. I was caught back by several things in her voicemail - #1, No one knew that she did not live with her boys? #2, She wanted to change weekends but she really did not want the boys for the entire weekend just enough to show them off. #3, borrow your kids are you crazy.

BM called and left a message that I am "the wildly wicked witch of the west" "I dont like you, never did and never will, you are just a bitchy bitch of B----- (stating our home town that begins with b)and M--- you are so meloncoly and mellow yellow every one says that you are so mighty nice it just makes me sick.
I thought maybe she had gone back to school and was attempting to write a poem. I called her back and left a very nice message that I was worried that something was wrong and that I was "worried" about her. She did not respond.

BM called and requested that I pick up both ss's as soon as possible as she and the boys were locked out of the house by the stepF who was drunk. She was in her PJ's when I got there 1 1/2 hours later the time that it took me to drive that far.

SS calls on a cell phone, can hear BM yelling at both SS about their father, calling his a worthless bastard, retarded, drunk asshole and such. BF played for the GAL and GAL just claimed that he was sure that both BF and I have done the same thing at some point. And I thought that I couldn't like anyone less than BM.