My situation is a little more complicated than others. I've been with my husband for 17 years now. He's 20 years older than me. I have 3 kids of my own. A son 24, 2 daughters 22 and 17 and 2 grandkids of my own. They are all doing excellent in life. My husband's kids are a whole different story but for the most part they have all kinda found their way, well into their 30s, finally. The oldest one is a couple years older than me and is a complete nightmare. I can't even begin to explain the frustration and aggravation this woman causes me. She has a 10 year old daughter that weighs 230 lbs. She got evicted from her apartment last year for not paying utilities and living for months on end without electricity or water. This is after YEARS of trying to help her and her refusal to work. We refused to let her live with us again after the last billion times went bad. Plus we knew if she got in our house, she'd never leave and we'd be solely financially responsible for her and her cigarettes and daughter.  So she had to go to the homeless shelter and was there for a couple weeks and they put her in a super cute house furnished it and she told us she had 2 years there but would have to pay half of everything after. Fast forward a year and the housing authority sees she isn't doing anything and move her to another HUD apartment where she again became responsible for the power bill. She thinks she's going to get SSI and absolutely refuses to work. So she's there about a month with no power and my husband swearing up and down he isn't going to pay it. Well he's retired and gets a check on the 3rd Wednesday of the month and I'm at work and get a text that he prayed about her power and has decided that he should pay it. Swears he's going to tell her that this is the last time.blah blah. We took her daughter to the beach and I did say to her that they could do things like that if her mom would get a job and she went off saying horrible things about me. I told her dad I thought she should have to apologize and he agreed and said he told her. Y'all, I looked at their chat thread and he's telling me he is sick and tired of it but telling her everything is good and not a single bit of annoyance or aggravation in the messages. Mind you ge will literally go on for hours complaining to me, but you would never know it by the messages. Well he also flips out if I'm gone too long or don't get home at exactly 530. This morning I saw where she asked him to take her to dhhr tomorrow morning. I'll be at work so I have no way of knowing what he's really done. I'm just venting.