Stil hanging in there.. DH is still going to therapy on his own, we are still going to couples therapy together and overall I would say we are moving in the right direction. DH has had to come to terms with how his actions have now changed  a great many things.  Examples, most of my memories from vacations past are now tainted. As in...did he really have a good time with us..or was it just because he had time to  partake in his side life. No one can say...not even him since he can't remember if he was engaging in that behavior or not during our vacations.  It was a bitter pill for him to swallow since has nothing but good memories of those trips. He is working on himself and I am optimistic at this point in time.  It was also a very bitter pill for him to swallow when I told him now I felt like a consolation prize...as in he was with me because I was the one there..not because he wanted to be with me.  I felt like I was the standin for whatever chick he was texting at the time.  Oh...that took awhile to unpack let me tell ya.....still unpacking that one a bit to be honest.

Now for SD...working is proving to be a bit more difficult than she thought. She has one manager that welll...is a biotch.  No way around it...but SD also isn't the sharpest tool in the shed...so I can see how biotchy manager doesn't like her.  So...its been a roller coaster ride with SD and the job..which had DH ready to go up and have a go at the biotchy manager . I promptly shut that down...no one needs their daddy going up to fight their battles.  SMH........and I got from DH..and I quote...."But she is my BABY'.

I rolled my eyes so far back in my head I could have seen what was behind me at the comment. 

Also, due to DH and SD going on vacation this week..she is at our house for 3 weeks. Oh joy...now I love SD but I have come to realize...I consider myself an empty nester.  Both of my kids are out of house..(DS now has a full time job utilizing his degree...all hail what ever deity you worship)...and while I like them to visit..I like it equally as well when they go back to their house.  I think they like going back to their own place as well.  I forget that we still have SD.  DH even forgets SD is there..I have to remind him. Truth be told...I think DH would like to be a full fledged empty nester as well.  Ah but he is not...my favorite saying to him lately is...NOT MY CIRCUS NOT MY MONKEY....ie SD is all him.  22 months to go for SD.

In a nutshell.DH and I continue work on things....SD is here for an extended stay...and well I'm enjoying my kids reaching adulthood.