That child needed to be in bed asleep, not in the middle of you and your husband this late at night. He needed to be spending some time with you instead of having his daughter up all hours of the night. I've sent all of our kids to bed when it was time for me and my husband to have time together. 

10 years old she should be in bed. This is the problem with a lot of these kids, they lack rules and structure.

Children need structure, children need an adequate amount of sleep. I wouldn't sit there, becyI would be annoyed.. I would go to bed and watch tv by myself. 

Everyone else already said it. Why wasn't she in bed?

Men can be stupid and lack the emotional intellegence to realize that SD being curled up with him past a reasonable bed time, especially on Valentine's day is wrong. Sometimes you have to take control of the situation. At 8 the evening should have gone like this:

"DH, I am going to pour us some wine (or whatever) and find a movie. You put SD to bed so we can have a little alone time."

This should not be a discussion, this should be just handled. If he made any excuses your reposnse should have been "Fine, you guys have a great time, I will go to bed with my *toy of choice*. I think you need to evaluate who you are in an actual marriage with. You and SD have a wonderful evening". Take you wine and walk away.

What worked for me was very early on I made it known that the couch was for me and DH and SD sits in one of the chairs if we're all in the living room together. I didn't have to say anything I just made a point of always sitting next to him. I didn't give in and walk away and let them have their cuddle time so to speak. And trust me I had to sit there and watch some TV some nights that I did not want to watch just to kind of set the pattern.

Ugh! I can totally relate with this. And when we go and have our date nights, she literally calls or texts her dad and asks when we are coming home and that we are taking forever....Any updates on this??