Update Time from Lt. Dad Land
I wanted to give an update since folks were very thoughtful in sharing ideas on how to handle YSS moving in:
- YSS now has weekly therapy. DH and I both went to the last appointment and the therapist is incorporating me without issue. Makes me very happy and pleased!
- YSS is eating breakfast and lunch, taking (mostly) daily showers, and changing his clothes daily. He also has been eating a healthy amount at dinner, which is great that he's eating more. He has been underweight, per his doctor, and really wanted there to be improvement in his weight.
- YSS has a C+ or higher in all his classes except one! Vast improvement over Fs in everything except one class. We're hosting "family homework nights" where DH sits down with YSS in the living room and they go through his assignments with him as YSS does them.
- Moving forward with moving. At this point, we're just waiting for weather to cooperate so we can get work done on the house so we can put it up for sale. Hard to put on a new roof with ice and snow on it.
- As far as I know, ET hasn't asked about YSS's therapy. If she has asked, it has been directly to YSS. Last time she picked him up, she didn't ask DH about school or therapy or how things are going, but did complain that someone lied to her about having a table for her to buy via Craigslist.
There is still a lot to work on, but I feel far less stressed now than I did two weeks ago. YSS seems less stressed, and DH seems to be relaxing more, too. I think we're starting to get into a groove, but I have no illusion that it'll stay smooth, but I'll take it for right now.
Next big project: getting DH to talk to an attorney. He is warming up to talking to one, which is good, but he won't take the initiative on it. He thinks ET will be reasonable, and I don't know how to shake loose the rose-colored glasses that she isn't reasonable, he just wants her to be. Of course she'll get her sh*t together and move back to YSS's school district, but for how long? It's not that she can't make change; it's that she can't sustain it.
So, nothing exciting, really, but I'm okay with that.
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I'm so glad to hear that
I'm so glad to hear that things are going well so far. Living with you and DH is probably the best thing to happen to YSS in a long time. I hope everything continues smoothly.
***He thinks ET will be reasonable***
Bwahahahaha!!!!!!
Good job, Lt. Dad!
I am so happy for you! Things are smoothing out. I had the same experience when OSS moved in. He started doing better, I was fine with it and it just seemed right for a young teenage boy to be living with his dad. Especially since I think it was traumatic for him to be seeing his volatile mom in a tumultuous relationship. Of course, we had 2 more move-ins later that werent as peaceful, SD and YSS. But even when all 3 had moved in, things were calmer than the transition days.
Your SS sounds like a good kid. I hope he continues his great new path. Good luck!
Glad things are going well.
Glad things are going well.
Do you think that if ET finds she's losing control and child support, she will take him back, or start pressuring him to say he wants to live with her? That could seriously jeopardize his progress.
Lt Dad, reading this gives me
Lt Dad, reading this gives me the warm fuzzies inside for YSS.
ET and reasonable do not belong in the same BOOK together, much less the same sentence. Oh, Mr. Lt Dad, you are having a major brain fart!
Great to hear
That you and your family are "in the groove". That happens at the end of our week of visitation with munchkin - everyone is co-existing, everything is happy and peaceful, we are laughing and joking...and then the week ends and she goes back to "the dark side".
Yeah, Dh shakes in his shoes at the very thought of being taken back to court. Its a visceral gut reaction.