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Adult Stepchildren Nightmares

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Submitted by yakette1 on Sun, 01/26/2020 - 10:28pm

I have 2 adult Stepchildren, ages 22 and 25. I have been in their lives since they were 13 and 16. Our relationship has been up and down. They like me when they agree with me, they hate me when I call them on their issues if they involve me. My 25 year old step daughter has 2 children and is a lazy slob. So is her husband. Recently I questioned a photo in which a bin of medicines was left on a table. I confirmed that it always sits there and suggested that it be moved to a high position where little hands could not get to it. I was told off. I have blocked communication with her and told her father to deal with the concerns abiutbhis grandchildren and their care. Anyone have similar experiences?

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Mandy45's picture

Submitted by Mandy45 on Mon, 01/27/2020 - 1:28am

One minute I'm great next minute I'm not because I just state the truth and dont pussy foot around everything. 

I just say my bit and let it be when it all falls apart. I just do the told you so dont come crying to me. 

But my sd26 similar all she wants to do is pop out babys and expects the goverment to look after her and her kids. 

It runs me up the wrong way because as gorgeous as my step grankids are I dont see much of a future for them and it not there fault. It there mothers laziness and selfishness that gonna be the downfall for those poor kids in the future. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Mon, 01/27/2020 - 8:59am

I'm going to be honest - it wasn't your place to question their parenting by remarking on medications on the table. I'd be annoyed if my own mother did that, quite frankly.  Not to say they aren't nightmares, but knowing that - don't make comments like that. You aren't their mother or grandmother.  Maybe DH could get away with making the remark?  Or maybe not.