I saw that movie on a plane recently too! I found the affair unbelievable. I am not sure how she went from being repelled by anything German to having an affair with a German man in a month or so (the timeline in the movie was unspecific). 

Producers seem reluctant to make movies without some sort of love interest in them which is a shame as this film had some interesting themes that would have been good if they had been explored further without that distraction. 

The other film I saw recently that was also a ww2 movie set in Germany was JoJo Rabit. It is very good, but awkward to watch as it is part comedy that makes you laugh at things that seem very wrong to laugh at. Worth watching if you get a chance. 

Ish. I will NEVER understand the glorification of adultry. I cannot tell you how many times people have told me I MUST watch the wonderful moive, The Bridges of Madison County, only to be baffled by my adamant refusal. Until I tell them that I have absolutely no desire to watch something that justifies adultry. Nope. Unhappy in marriage? Fix it or get out. Having an affair is not the solution. No offense intended for those who believe that adultery IS a solution to fix their marriage. There is no gray area for me in this. 

Movies like fatal attaction, the affair, unfaithful, that glorify adultery seem to be so fascinating.

Cheating is a sore spot with my DH - his ex Toxic Troll went online looking for male attention and she got a lot of it. He caught her in communications with all these dudes, who would send her nudes. She lied and said it wasnt physical and then my dear dear dear h created an online profile after first kicking her out of the house. She fell for his online profile, and when he showed up for a date, he told her "games up we are DONE".

Kinda dramatic and "lifetime for women", but if your marriage is on the line and you have kids together, I guess you need to know if the cheater is telling you the truth and wants to work on things, if anything is left to salvage.

Cheating sucks, and movies that glorify cheating suck.

Good news is that if she hadnt done that, he would still be stuck with her toxic, alcoholic a$$. So hes actually glad that she cheated.

I have no time or respect for adulterous wh%res (of either sex).
Sickening how there can be any justification for it.

And I found Salzburg to be beautiful.  We also did the Sound of Music tour --a singing tour at that and loved it.

i am not excusing adultery but we humans are frail and life is hard.  I think there is difference between someone who, in a moment of weakness breaks a vow than some one who aggressively, willfully goes looking for encounters.  I believe in my vows and stick to them but I do not know the details or aagreements on someone else's marriage.  I think if we are going to be ok with people marrying many multiple times we've already diminished the meaning of marriage vows.

Our nextdoor neighbors are young pot smoking hippies.  The husband is cheating on the wife.  It has been going on for over a year.  At first we weren't sure if they were swingers, but labor day weekend clarrified that.  The mistress showed up Sunday night with an overnight bag, while the wife and kids were visiting the grandparents.  Monday morning the wife came home early while the mistress and husband were drinking beer in the backyard, and the mistress went flying out the front door while the wife was pulling into the garage.  Mistress ran into our backyard, so DH went out there to burn some trash in our fire pit.  Mistress then went running between the houses and down the street into her car.  A few minutes later the husband decided he needed to go for a walk, went down a block, and got into her car.

The neighbor on the other side of us is a good friend and he was outside the whole time this was all happening.  His wife was yelling "OH COME ON!" at the mistress.

When we all first found out about the affair, we were hoping he'd stop on his own.  His wife is a gorgeous lady, and they have two beautiful young children, 8 and 4.  We figured the longer they stayed married, the better for their kids.  But this situation is taking a toll on everyone.  Like the friend-neighbor said, he's disrespecting his wife, and everyone else involved too.

We have to tell her, but we want to do it anonymously.  The husband is a bit of a nut.  He drinks his own pee and believes his twenty year old house is haunted by ghosts.  After the labor day incident, he made it a point to walk over to the end of friend-neighbor's driveway and stand there glaring at him, "What's up?"  That's creepy.

The only way we can tell her without him intercepting it is through her work email, and we're going to wait until after xmas.  I'm sorry we waited so long, she's a teacher so May would have been a better time to tell her.  We tried to mind our own business, but it is wearing on us.

If they divorce I don't know who will end up with the house, if either.  The husband is a renouned artist but he could easily quit working.  He also recently started doing realty work, but maybe that just gives him acess to all kinds of empty bedrooms, ick.

Friend-neighbors's wife refers to the mistress as The Tramp.  IMO, the situation is 95% the husband's fault.  He's the one in the relationship, he's the one breaking his promise.  And it's not romantic at all, it's trashy.