I have always loved animals and when I got my own house I wanted to be a foster for a local shelter for dogs. I find this very rewarding taking a unwanted stray and finding a loving home for them. When DH and I purchased our first home I was finally able to do this. DH unfortunately has never been keen on the idea and over the last couple of years seems to be less tolerant of me doing this.

Now if DH did not like dogs I could understand but thats not the case. DH even has his own dog! The shelter pays for everything including all vet care/food. All I have to do is take care of them and occasionally bring them to the vet when needed. I have never asked DH to help walk the dogs/clean up after them. The ONLY thing I've asked him to do is feed them and this is maybe twice a week when I have to work and can't do it myself. This takes all of five minutes for him to do.

DH complained the "foster dogs" were taking away from our time together so I started walking them/vet visits/ cleaning up after them whenever DH was either at work or out with SS. This way when DH was home I was not tending to the dog/puppy except for a quick bathroom break.

DH then complained that it was "stressing" me out and making me tired taking care of the dog/puppy. Yes sometimes when a young puppy gets sick or even dies it stresses me out BUT it was not as stressful as SS screaming 24/7 running through the house which I told DH. So I completing stopped telling DH when one dog/puppy was sick or I was feeling tired and just kept every time even slightly negative about the dogs to myself.

DH then complained that the "foster dogs" were taking away from the "working of the household". Meaning the time I'm putting into caring for the "foster dogs" I could be cleaning/doing yard work ect. NOW this is what REALLY was the problem all along I firmly believe. Now I will say its not like I have to bottle feed these animals around the clock or that I have 5 dogs at a time. At most I have two foster dogs and its really not allot of work. A few walks a day and feeding them twice a day. Yes its more work if they get sick but even that is not what i would consider unreasonable. I've pointed out that DH couching SS football team, running him to DR appointments or a friends house across town takes way more time than what I spend with the foster dogs.

This is the ONLY hobby if you can call it that that I do. I hardly ever go out with friends so its not like I'm spending lots of time doing other things outside the house.

I really get great enjoyment out of doing this BUT DH is making it so uncomfortable its causing me great stress. I've explained this to DH and all he does is repeat the things above and says in a snotty tone "I'm just telling how I feel".

Thoughts, suggestions???