SD13 barely says an original thought during her two weekend visits a month at our house. She barely says anything at all. And it is wonderful. 

It is like I don’t even have a SD anymore. That’s DH’s daughter, and that’s it. DS is referred to as “her little brother”, but I’m not even worried anymore about her being a bad influence because my DS is smart and I’m wise to who SS13 is slowly becoming.

I don’t go to her extracurriculars (what few there are). 

I don’t make much conversation beyond polite small talk. 

I don’t take her places (ever!) or spend a red cent on her. 

It’s an AMAZING feeling. It’s like I’ve been erased. I’m DS’s mom and DH’s wife. I’m nothing to SD.

So this is what disengagement gets ya!