Stand by your word! Good for you Capp.

I know how hard it is to accept this type of gesture when you feel that it may not be very genuine.  Try and just accept it...it might just be what your SD needs to hear.  The effort to start the process and break the ice is a vicious thing....leaves me feeling very very vunerable.  Hang in there!  Be thankful she made any effort at all.

Texts are easy to send and have zero sincerity.  My SD gave me a birthday card that DH bought and wrote me a little note.  When I tried to sit down and talk with her she mumbled about dad made her do it and she didn’t really feel that way....yep after that no love was lost lost when I ghosted her from my life. 

If your SD is sincere sit down with her and talk to her about the text...watch her reaction...20 bucks says she only did it cause her dad told her too.

Well. At least she humbled herself and kowtowed to you. You don’t have to remember her birthday or give her anything at Christmas but at least give yourself permission to let this one go and free your heart. 

How nice! Now you know that texting is a perfectly acceptable way of acknowledging birthdays in your blended family. No need to bother with silly cakes, presents, etc because it would only make your skid feel uncomfortable. Nope, texting is the way to go, and don't forget to remind your DH of it.