The past month with oldest SS (15)  has been a nightmare. 

Since school has been out for summer, and he had his overly-dramatic fit about transferring schools to where his girlfriend will be attending, it has been non-stop attitude from this little punk. After we called the police when my DH found out that SS was planning on running away and taking a bunch of knives with him, SS has turned into a quiet, glaring little sociopath. He didn't get his way with transferring schools, so he's going to punish us. I told DH there is no way his over-active hormones are going to be the reason he transfers to my daughter's school. Hell to the f---in no. 

So, the past month, SS has been constantly, and I mean 24/7, on his phone. Non-stop talking and texting this girl. Which, by the way I am still completely puzzled how someone like my SS even got a girl to look his way. He's funny looking and has a big long neck like a chicken, wears thick glasses and has so many weird ticks because his father refuses to take him to get help for his ADHD(strange hand movements, wringing hands constantly, jerky head movements etc). And he cannot part for even one second with his phone. He even shoots baskets in the driveway with the phone in one hand and basketball in the other. The dinging text sounds from his phone is non-stop.

He will not do overnights with his mother anymore because 1)He shares a room at my home with his brother, and when his brother stays the night at their mothers, he can have the room all to himself to talk dirty to his girlfriend on the phone and stay on the phone with her all night and 2) I am fairly sure it is a way to punish me because he knows I can't stand having him around and what better way to get to me then to be around all the time.

Because of this girlfriend, who he has been with a grand total of one month and has already expressed his undying love to, he will not do anything but sit in his room at my house with his phone glued to his hand. In the past, the kid was constantly "bored" and had to be doing something all the time. His mom would take him camping, fishing and swimming in the summer. and he loved it. Because he has severe ADHD, it was good for him to do stuff like that. His mom and her boyfriend went camping last week, and forced him to go with them. They were supposed to be gone from Friday to Sunday night. He has been putting up a fight about not going but she bribed him to go with energy drinks. So apparently energy drinks for a kid with severe, untreated ADHD is a good idea. But it worked. They had been there a grand total of two hours before he was calling my DH to come pick him up because his tummy hurt and he was dizzy and going to throw up. I totally knew that would happen. He wasn't about to stay out in the middle of nowhere with spotty cell phone reception. I told my DH that he was making that up so he woudn't have to stay, but my stupid DH drives 1.5 hours one way to go pick him up! It was our first evening together without the brat and it was ruined. So back he comes with him and his brother. And he was overexplaning how oldest SS really didn't look good and he could tell he was really sick. Yeah right. SS was instantly on the phone with the love of his life not five minutes after he walked back into our house. So this summer, because of this obsession with this girl, he won't go anywhere or do anything but sit around and talk and text her.  Hell, he won't even play Xbox anymore and he used to be glued to that thing! I know boys at that age like girls, but that doesn't mean they quit doing everything they used to do just because they have a girlfriend. It's completely abnormal and obsessive. He has even decided he won't play football this year and the past couple of years he has been obsessed with football and just had to be on a football team.  I guess that obsession has been replaced with this girl. I'm convinced that this kid will be the subject of a Dateline episode as a stalker who would not leave his girlfriends alone and ends up going crazy and killing them all. He is that obsessed.

Last night, he was talking to his "baby girl" on the phone. Oh, that's what they call each other...baby girl and baby boy. I told my DH that he better watch out because at the rate SS is going, he and baby girl  might end up with a baby girl or baby boy of their own. Anyway, my husband had gone to bed. Our room is close to SS's room. The little turd hops in his bed every night at 8 and texts, takes pictures of himself to send to his girlfriend and talks to her on the phone. I shudder to think what some of those pictures might be.  I overheard him talking dirty to his GF lat around 11 last night and was horrified. I think he thought I was already in bed and didn't realize I was still up to hear him.  He is not supposed to be on his phone after 9:30. My daughter is down the hall from him and I didn't want her to overhear him.  I went into our bedroom and told my husband that SS was on the phone with his girlfriend and what he was saying. I also heard him say, "I'm sorry baby girl, that won't happen again. I'm going to stay up as late as I can with you." DH got mad and said that just minutes before, he had told him to get off the phone (not much reaction to the dirty talk, but whatever). SS hung up and said OK, and that he wouldn't get on the phone again that night. Which of course he did, because he doesn't listen to anything an adult tells him. So DH goes in there AGAIN and tells him to get off the phone, and he was going to start taking his phone away every night at bedtime so he couldn't be on it all night. That kid is the most defiant kid I have ever known and my DH has let him get away with entirely too much. Of course, DH, who is scared of SS, didn't take the phone from him last night. I asked him why the hell he didn't take it from him right then and there. He said , "Oh, I'm going to take it from him tomorrow night, you better believe it!" Yeah right. He bows down and does anything this kid wants and never punishes him the way he should punish him. Which is why SS is a rotten, unstable, selfish, greedy little turd. 

So SS has now decided that he wants to spend the night at his mom's tonight. The first time in over a month that I won't have to deal with him! Hallelujah!! I said to my DH, "Don't you think it's funny that after a solid month of being firmly parked in his room here and not moving or doing anything and being moody and sullen, that all of a sudden he wants to stay with his mother?" He's doing it because 1) I told on him to his dad about him repeatedly getting back on the phone with his girlfriend and how he was talking dirty to her and 2) he thinks his phone will be taken away tonight. Which is fine with me. As long as he isn't at my house! 

So the saga continues. I don't know what it will take for my DH to take this kid to a psychiatrist. He is defiant, completely opposes any authority and is batshit crazy and is only going to get crazier. I guess maybe the kid will have to cause physical harm to DH or me before he takes his craziness seriously. I mean, running away and taking a bunch of knives with him was not enough to make him get help for him. The kid is scary. Not minutes after the deputies left our house a month ago after he had his last mental breakdown, he went up to my husband, fists clenched like he was going to hit him and demanded his phone back. And after the deputies told him that as a 15-year-old kid, he has no rights and has to listen to the adults in the house that he lives in and do what they say. I can't imagine my daughter ever talking to me that way, or me ever talking to my parents that way. Of course, DH gives him his phone back. My husband has lost control of this little monster and I am seriously scared of what he could do next.