Those who do are the ones who are the most suspicious of others. BM used to accuse BF of cheating and in reality it was BM who was cheating.

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

smurfy is right-the most suspicious ones are generally the ones who have something to hide. Is this new behaviour? Or something he's always done?

All I can tell you is that my ex-who was a serial cheater-went to the extremes of putting a voice actived tape recorder inside the mattress. I was furious when I found it. Like-duh-I would have a man in our bedroom with my kids there!!! He even followed me. to no avail. I don't have a cheating bone in my body.

Ywp Yep.. My mom always told me that if a man starts accusing you it's because they have a guilty conscience..They know what they are doing or what they do when they are out and about with friends or away from home so they assume that you do the same...

My ex husband started accusing me of messing around..The big red flag was that he had no reason to suspect that I was and I had never given him a reason in the 10 years we were married. Come to find out, Mr.EX H was engaging in a bit of extra curricular activities in the evenings and telling me he was working late..I caught him red handed and kicked him to the curb like yesterdays garbage..

Any time a man starts making accusations that are unfounded its a red flag that they are up to no good.

In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities. ~ disgusted

cheated on before?If so maybe he is just being cautious.If it caused devastation in his past than maybe he doesnt want to go through it again.Does he know your friends brother?

My ex used to accuse me of cheating on him ALL the time during the course of our 10-yr marriage.

One time while I was pregnant with our second child!!! (eww and gross!) Another time he even accused me of having an affair with a PRIEST because I was doing a lot of work for the Church (double EWWWW and GROSSS!!!)

But the funny thing was, HE was always the one who was never home...always staying out late most weeknights past 11pm when he got done work at 5. But I was the one supposedly having all these affairs- At home with two young children???? Yeah, right.

In my situation, it was definitely a case of, "I think thou doest protest too much."

"Of course things worked out nicely for Carol Brady...she had a live-in maid and Mike's first wife was DEAD!"

Sounds like he just cares & is making sure to protect himself.

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

My Lovely Bride is amazing and has never given me the least cause to not trust her. But ......... once bitten twice shy as the heavy metal classic so eloquently states.

I stay very interested in my wife's life and we discuss regularly what we are doing and who we are interfacing with when we are not together. She recently changed firms and I am still getting all of the names down for her new place of work. Nearly every evening we do a daily review of the day's noteworthy activities and we both discuss who, what, when where and our impression of people we interface with.

This is not so that either of us can keep tabs on the other. It is so that we can express an interest in each other's professional lives and be connected with the parts of our lives that are not experienced together. I have noted however that when a new lady enters my work environment or a new man enters my wife's that we both get a little more interested in the daily activity discussions for a while.

My XW had a fairly long running affair while we were married and BioDad regularly cheated on my wife after SS was born. I think we both are just cognizant of any new potential risks to our marriage and want to maintain a level of comfort with each other.

That said, we both support the other to have lives and support networks that are outside of our marriage. My wife does a Ladies Night Theater and Wine group with friends and I do periodic guy trips with some of my buddies. If it happens that either of us have an activity that is planned with a mutual friend we usually make it a couples or multiple family activity so we can all participate. We both also have close friends that are of the opposite gender. I have a couple of girls that I grew up with that I have remained extremely close with. My wife has a couple of guys that she is close friends with and keeps in touch with regularly.

I definitely agree with Mel's opinion on this. It is likely nothing more than diligence on your DHs part. I know that for me with my wife it is interest and not distrust and I am confident it is the same for her. We both recognize that neither of us is irreplaceable to the other and that the strength of our relationship is how much we appreciate and cherish each other and the life we have built together.

There have been a couple of groupies that my wife has had sniffing around over the years. And hey, there is nothing wrong with keeping a diligent eye out for the possibility of an interested suitor especially with a woman as beautiful and accomplished as my bride is.

JMHO.

Best regards,