So my SS4 was supposed to be spending the weekend with his BM (first time in over a month). We usually drive the full 2.5hrs to take him because we have a bunch of family in the immediate area, but we are not visiting until Easter, and haven't visited since early February. So, she called me last week (Tuesday) talked to SS for 10 minutes, then asked me when we are coming to visit again, I said probably not until Easter. She just said oh okay, well I will talk to you guys soon. Thursday, she called my cell at 8am so I let DH handle it (because I get annoyed with her easily and don't want to be rude in front of the kids) and she asked if she could have him next weekend (19-21). He asked me, I reminded him that SS has school until 3 on Friday but I will be home after that. He talks to her a minute longer and hangs up. Then says...I told her you would meet her halfway next Friday, she will call and tell you when and where. Nice. First time in a year she would actually be meeting us. I was kind of surprised and asked who the nimwit is that is driving her and he named a friend we know.
Okay, so by this Wednesday we have not heard from her about anything, and hasn't called SS at all either. I talked to my MIL though and was told that BM called her to tell her SS would be with her this weekend and would she like to see him(They live down the road from each other like half a block away). My MIL tells me this, I thought well gee she can call MIL but she hasn't even called me to make any arrangements, and I am not going to make last minute plans to drive there if she doesn't call me ahead of time.
Yesterday, BM calls me twice, my cell was charging and I didn't hear it...so I saw she had called at about 4:30 and called her back. She doesn't have her own phone...she uses her neighbor's because she can't afford her own. So, I called, asked for her, got a rude no, but who is this. Told neighbor who I was and why I was calling and she said she would have her call me when she got back in. Never got a phone call.
Today, MIL calls my DH and says that she found out from a friend that BM got picked up and is in Jail for a week. No surprise there...(she has like 3 felonies and is on probation but doesn't pay her fines or anything) So, I tell my DH to call the neighbor to see what she says. She tells him the same thing she told me the night before. SS asks to call his BM, and we told him where she was (She has told him before when she was in jail, and we want to be honest with him-we don't lie to him...that's her dept.) He just said oh okay. So this afternoon MIL calls and says she just got a call (From the people who were watching BM's 5mnth old baby) that BM bailed herself out. I call my DH on his way to work and he said yeah I know...she just called me and now she has no money to pay to come and get SS so he is with us this weekend. No big he's better off not being there anyway. I have been waiting all day for her to call and talk to SS since it's been over a week since they last spoke, but no. I don't get it.
I just don't get it. Call your freaking child! You are a p.o.s. but your son worships you! I just wish she would grow up and move to Colorado like she said she was going to! Then she would only see him in the summer! What is up with these freaking moron BMs who think they are good mothers. Like for real some people should just not be allowed to have kids! The smartest thing she's done in the past year is get her tubes tied after her second child was born! She's older than me but knows nothing about raising kids! I just wish she would give up already since it seems that she is already heading down that road!